As a general principle, I don't think spouses have a right to pry into the sexual history of their partners or shame them for what they did in the past. Sometimes it's relevant to what's going on in the current relationship and lingering issues need to be dealt with, but usually it's just history, and we all have those.
So what exactly is bothering you? Do you feel your wife is being phony with you and lying about the person she truly is? Or is the main point how she's just not that into sex with you? Do you maybe feel twinges of jealousy and inadequacy, wondering if you just can't turn her on as much as those other guys did?
Does the idea of her behaving as she did turn you on? Don't feel bad if it does, since lots of guys would react that way.
If it repulses or disgusts you, then I'd suggest you need to step back, think about why that is, and consider just how important it really is to your relationship with her.
People's priorities can change. Maybe she looks back at that period of her life as a "been there, done that, moved on" sort of thing. Maybe something traumatic happened during that period which forced her to reconsider her choices. Maybe she came to understand that she was looking for something in entirely the wrong way. Maybe she just woke up one morning and decided she wasn't living the life she wanted.
Your image of your wife has obviously changed drastically, but you can't really understand why she went from what she was to what she is without talking to her about it. Not that there's any guarantee you'll get the truth. It's entirely possible she either won't want to share all the details (which is her right), or maybe she doesn't fully understand why she did what she did and why she changed.
It probably wouldn't be wise to admit that you were snooping on her old laptop, but if you do find that the thought of her being sexually voracious does things for you, maybe you could consider easing in to some fantasy talk and checking out how she responds.
I just found out my wife was the biggest slut
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As a general principle, I don't think spouses have a right to pry into the sexual history of their partners or shame them for what they did in the past. Sometimes it's relevant to what's going on in the current relationship and lingering issues need to be dealt with, but usually it's just history, and we all have those.
So what exactly is bothering you? Do you feel your wife is being phony with you and lying about the person she truly is? Or is the main point how she's just not that into sex with you? Do you maybe feel twinges of jealousy and inadequacy, wondering if you just can't turn her on as much as those other guys did?
Does the idea of her behaving as she did turn you on? Don't feel bad if it does, since lots of guys would react that way.
If it repulses or disgusts you, then I'd suggest you need to step back, think about why that is, and consider just how important it really is to your relationship with her.
People's priorities can change. Maybe she looks back at that period of her life as a "been there, done that, moved on" sort of thing. Maybe something traumatic happened during that period which forced her to reconsider her choices. Maybe she came to understand that she was looking for something in entirely the wrong way. Maybe she just woke up one morning and decided she wasn't living the life she wanted.
Your image of your wife has obviously changed drastically, but you can't really understand why she went from what she was to what she is without talking to her about it. Not that there's any guarantee you'll get the truth. It's entirely possible she either won't want to share all the details (which is her right), or maybe she doesn't fully understand why she did what she did and why she changed.
It probably wouldn't be wise to admit that you were snooping on her old laptop, but if you do find that the thought of her being sexually voracious does things for you, maybe you could consider easing in to some fantasy talk and checking out how she responds.