I,i,n, to fight with every love and find them irritating enough to leave

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All the relationships were different no two the same but for some reason every one ended with fights arguing.abused by my dad probably is the main reason I try to push people away and have self survival skills,,,i really am my own worst enemy.although in my head it's the partners that have been in the wrong and although I'm far from perfect I think I'm a good partner to have,, is it me or am I just that unlucky that the 4 serious/important relationships I've had have been with unstable men/ boys and has gone down this route

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    It's great you're aware of how you are and where it comes from; continue to heal from it as best as you can.

    As for the relationships; sadly it maybe you picking the wrong people. Hear me out, childhood shapes us from how we behave to who we find attractive; even though we don't mean to, a lot of us fall back on what we know. So you could be picking men who show traits of your father, mother, and anyone you've grown up with, because it's familiar even though it's wrong.

    If this is the case, then you'll have to teach yourself what a healthy relstionship is, and what to search for without being unrealistic in expectations. My suggestion, start with learning all you can about Relationship Red Flags, and how to spot the subtle signs of them when you begin seeing someone. Next, always trust your gut; it's easy for us to get caught up in the new-love-high and not notice red flags; but when you get that, "What... what he said was weird," at that moment stop yourself from rationalizing it for him and ask follow-up questions to any strange behavior or statments.

    Good luck, I wish you the best.

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