I have very low self-esteem.

I have to flirt with almost every guy I talk to. I feel like when guys look at other women, I'm not good enough for anybody. Is this normal..? :/

Is It Normal?
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  • Become secure. Look up a personality test online and take it. Find out who you are. Clinging to others and being insecure and weak will never get you anywhere.

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  • You have to realize not everything is about looks. People say personality matters but that's not the right word! It's the persons character and mannerisms everything from their laugh to their voice to their smile. You will meet a guy who will think your the perfect stranger, and be smitten by the first conversation. Also life Is beautiful all the good moments outweigh the bad.

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  • Well, if you have enough guts to flirt, then you obviously don't have very low self-esteem like you originally thought. Women with low self-esteem would feel so bad about themselves that they would be complete shut ins and won't even try to talk to people. And honestly, feeling like you aren't good enough is normal, at least to me. Just know that you're not alone.

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    • Wtf, really flirty girls are often super insecure.

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      • Said tommythecat in a questioning voice. Tommys motives were clear, destroy all humans. Will Tommy succeed? Only time will tell now.

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        No one can get in the way of tommythecat, tommy wore sunglasses at night...

        and to all of those haters out there, tommy had only one thing to say "Come at me bro."

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          Say baby do you wanna lay down by me?
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  • Me too. I feel this way sometimes. Except sometimes I'm actually flirting without even realizing it. And I agree with ValleyofVung, its something to work on. I can never take compliments well either.

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  • This is me in a nutshell. I never thought I had low self esteem until a couple people pointed it out because I could never accept their compliments and hated feeling like I was being watched/judged. Oh well, something to work on I suppose.

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