I have trouble with trust and girlfriend problems.

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Im a male, age 18. So the background is we went to different schools in the same district so not far away or anything. We tend to spend everyday together, we both have been loving it and we love each other. We've been thinking of marriage so its pretty serious and im going into the Air Force but im not gonna lie we are still young (18). We have different friends and we usually can hangout with my friends just fine because I will include or like show affection towards her and stuff like that. But when we are with her friends (mainly all guys) it tends to feel like she doesn't even know im there and I end up getting mad. Then when I confront her about these problems I have she never thinks she does that stuff.

I guess my main question is should I be getting mad or do I keep blowing these things off?

Also during are arguments she mentioned she wants to hangout with her friends more by herself, if its girls I have no problem with that but the way I look at it is if shes hanging out with her guy friends why wouldn't it be ok if I was their too? keep in mind they are mainly all guys that I don't know all that well. Should I be cool with her doing that or is it right for me to be uncomfortable with that?

Anything helps thank you.

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago | pl

    You're 18, she's 18... what comes along with that is passive-aggressiveness, naive tendencies, and not seeing the world for what it really is. Most girls who have guys friends don't realize that the guys are only their friends because they eventually want to sleep with them (or be their next boyfriend). I would insist on hanging out with her when she's around her guy friends, and it is your job to make sure the guy friends like and respect you. If they don't then she needs to be the one to say "hey, if you have a problem with my boyfriend then you have a problem with me". I would, personally, make a stink about it - because she's so naive at this age that she doesn't see the reality of the situation and could find herself manipulated in a predicament that could harm y'alls relationship.

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  • DCD
    13 years ago | pl

    Back off give her space see what she does. For God's sake you are going to do something huge in the Air Force... Now is the time to be the grown up!

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  • hotbisexual
    13 years ago | pl

    Its really hard to answer this seeing as i don't know your girlfriend at all and how she acts towards her friends.
    has she ever cheated before?
    maybe give her some space every known and again with her friends if she truely loves you she will not betray you in anyway.
    you need to trust her.
    also if your really worried about her spending time with her friends (guys) alone then talk to her about it being open in a relationship is the key to a sucessfull relationshio :)

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago | pl

    YYAAYYYY awesome!!!!

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  • Myusername
    14 years ago | pl

    Thank you both for all your help, it really did pay off to stick to what I thought and im really glad. Its all really good now, if you guys are wondering we are engaged and im soon to be in the Air Force. Everything is good and she even feels the same way I do now. I dont know if the ring made her realize it or what... but thank you.

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  • NormalityMan
    14 years ago | pl

    Galaxy500 is right, and if you blow it off then you'd be in some nasty trouble later on. This will all work out if you just stand by what you think is right in you relationship. Good Luck to you and your GF.

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