Ok, so I felt like giving you an actual answer. It's normal to be nervous about the idea of sex. You will be more comfortable tackling the decision the more you educate yourself. Know your contraceptives and what works best for you. There are RISKS of getting pregnant using any of them - so know them. Condoms are definitely pretty easy to get. Go with a "name brand."
I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no," then you should rethink your desire.
If you know your friend has sex all the time, chances are everyone knows...and that can haunt a younger person. Sex is amazing - but it's no one else's business. So then, you should reasonably trust that your partner will respect your wishes to keep it on the down-low.
The number ONE rule, since you mentioned STD's, is - EVERY damn guy will say "I'm safe," "I've only had sex once before," "I've always worn a condom, so it's ok if we do it without one." This may be a VERY weird statement, but WE want to get you pregnant. We have a primal need to make as many babies as we can. Condoms suck. We want to screw you without one - and we probably won't be able to pull out in time, even if we say we will. We will lie to you to have sex with you. We haven't been tested for an STD and don't really know if we have one or not - but we HOPE we don't - and will stick it in you anyway. You won't know if you contract an STD until it's too late.
Recap: Nervous is normal. Educate yourself and if you feel you're ready to have sex, do it with someone you care about and who's proven themselves to care about you. If you're not on the pill, get on it. Even then, use a condom. No excuses.
Good advice, but I'll pick out the one point that I totally disagree with:
'I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no", then you should rethink your desire.'
I've been in a sexual relationship with my current girlfriend for 5 years. We use the pill and condoms and we've agreed if any sperm gets past that we're having an abortion. We love sex, but we do not want a baby.
If 2 people want to have sex, they should have sex. Just don't be retards about it. (14 year olds, people who are too nervous to by condoms, etc, come under my retard catogory).
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Ok, so I felt like giving you an actual answer. It's normal to be nervous about the idea of sex. You will be more comfortable tackling the decision the more you educate yourself. Know your contraceptives and what works best for you. There are RISKS of getting pregnant using any of them - so know them. Condoms are definitely pretty easy to get. Go with a "name brand."
I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no," then you should rethink your desire.
If you know your friend has sex all the time, chances are everyone knows...and that can haunt a younger person. Sex is amazing - but it's no one else's business. So then, you should reasonably trust that your partner will respect your wishes to keep it on the down-low.
The number ONE rule, since you mentioned STD's, is - EVERY damn guy will say "I'm safe," "I've only had sex once before," "I've always worn a condom, so it's ok if we do it without one." This may be a VERY weird statement, but WE want to get you pregnant. We have a primal need to make as many babies as we can. Condoms suck. We want to screw you without one - and we probably won't be able to pull out in time, even if we say we will. We will lie to you to have sex with you. We haven't been tested for an STD and don't really know if we have one or not - but we HOPE we don't - and will stick it in you anyway. You won't know if you contract an STD until it's too late.
Recap: Nervous is normal. Educate yourself and if you feel you're ready to have sex, do it with someone you care about and who's proven themselves to care about you. If you're not on the pill, get on it. Even then, use a condom. No excuses.
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Good advice, but I'll pick out the one point that I totally disagree with:
'I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no", then you should rethink your desire.'
I've been in a sexual relationship with my current girlfriend for 5 years. We use the pill and condoms and we've agreed if any sperm gets past that we're having an abortion. We love sex, but we do not want a baby.
If 2 people want to have sex, they should have sex. Just don't be retards about it. (14 year olds, people who are too nervous to by condoms, etc, come under my retard catogory).