I have this feeling. . .

Iva had this urge to have sex but i am afraid what will happene i mean ive thought about it but then it turns into me just kinda freaking out my friend well lets just call her "A" she has done it with he boyfirned 5 times but the lucky thing is she cant get pregnant and he doesnt have any stds so they can do it all night long and not have any problems is it normal to want to and dont know if its the right thing to do?

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  • BfingIToucher

    If you're nervous, you're not ready. You don't need to compare yourself to your friend. She is not you.

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    • lease

      I'm pretty sure everyone is nervous their first time! But Bfing is right, don't compare yourself to your friend.

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  • lease

    Ok, so I felt like giving you an actual answer. It's normal to be nervous about the idea of sex. You will be more comfortable tackling the decision the more you educate yourself. Know your contraceptives and what works best for you. There are RISKS of getting pregnant using any of them - so know them. Condoms are definitely pretty easy to get. Go with a "name brand."

    I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no," then you should rethink your desire.

    If you know your friend has sex all the time, chances are everyone knows...and that can haunt a younger person. Sex is amazing - but it's no one else's business. So then, you should reasonably trust that your partner will respect your wishes to keep it on the down-low.

    The number ONE rule, since you mentioned STD's, is - EVERY damn guy will say "I'm safe," "I've only had sex once before," "I've always worn a condom, so it's ok if we do it without one." This may be a VERY weird statement, but WE want to get you pregnant. We have a primal need to make as many babies as we can. Condoms suck. We want to screw you without one - and we probably won't be able to pull out in time, even if we say we will. We will lie to you to have sex with you. We haven't been tested for an STD and don't really know if we have one or not - but we HOPE we don't - and will stick it in you anyway. You won't know if you contract an STD until it's too late.

    Recap: Nervous is normal. Educate yourself and if you feel you're ready to have sex, do it with someone you care about and who's proven themselves to care about you. If you're not on the pill, get on it. Even then, use a condom. No excuses.

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    • UnrecognizableMan

      Good advice, but I'll pick out the one point that I totally disagree with:

      'I think my advice to anyone is "are you willing to have a baby with the other person." If the answer is "no", then you should rethink your desire.'

      I've been in a sexual relationship with my current girlfriend for 5 years. We use the pill and condoms and we've agreed if any sperm gets past that we're having an abortion. We love sex, but we do not want a baby.

      If 2 people want to have sex, they should have sex. Just don't be retards about it. (14 year olds, people who are too nervous to by condoms, etc, come under my retard catogory).

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  • Alkibiades

    Honey, don't have sex with a boy now. Condoms are just trouble, in the long run something stupid happens. The better strategy is pornography and masturbation and -- if you can -- kissing girls. Just tell the boys you want to see them jerk off and watch pornography with them. You can masturbate or have them kiss your pussy. By not fucking you'll have a tremendous amount of power over them, power you can't imagine.

    There is ZERO reason to let them fuck you, as you can have tons of pleasure without that, using vibrators, porno, submissive boys and many other things.

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  • brainssexathlete101

    Flat out, It is normal to have the urge, but if you don't know if that is the right thing, you are better off to just chill out, figure out your priorities, and what you want. The only thing that is stronger than the urge to have sex; is the immense feeling of regret that you get from wasting your virginity on the wrong person, and/or at the at the wrong time.
    Speaking from experience man

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  • bigtoe88

    uh yup I agree w/ Danny Kanes

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  • Cessypants

    Maybe youre not ready yet to do those kinds of things. Dont rush things, let it happen at the right time. ^^

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  • solo-man

    Totally normal

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  • onehenn

    i like how sidekickz complained about your punctuation and then didn't use it properly in his/her/its comment.

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    • Sidekickz

      i know sorry...
      i'm dumb.

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      • Sidekickz

        but i'm not english/ american or whatsoever...

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  • Dad

    I'm actually going to fully repeat (word for word) BfingIToucher's comment, because that is the answer.

    If you're nervous, you're not ready. You don't need to compare yourself to your friend. She is not you.

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  • DannyKanes

    I have no idea what you're going on about.

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  • Sidekickz

    well i know one thing and that is grammar!.. have you ever heard of dots??? they look like this: ............

    but its pretty normal to worry about that it can be pretty scary sometimes!

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    • lease

      ...but you're not so hot on punctuation! Ever heard of ellipsis? They look like this: ...

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      • Sidekickz

        Damn you got me there...
        Sry i ussualy do that!
        Sorry

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    • Ipticalollusion

      Dots? You mean periods?

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  • homohomo

    HOMOHOMO NUKUNUKU AHahAHah!

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    • Sidekickz

      dude...
      WTF!?

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  • SoccerStud88

    Just take a fat, hard cock already OP

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  • unique_service_inc

    If you're nervous, you're not ready when the time is right and you know what it is you want then you will be ready it's good you think it through but if you have plans for the future it's best you always take into consideration what could happen to change it so as not to be caught with your pants down so to speak.

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