I have no idea what to do

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Ugh... So listen, I have this girl at my workplace who I absolutely adore. I've never really worked the same shifts with her until now, and man, I have never met someone I have clicked with so fast. Like seriously, just thinking about her makes me smile. We Snapchat constantly and we hang out as often as we can at work. Everything comes so naturally with her, the humor, conversations, working well together, everything. So I should also put out there that this is girl on girl... and I have no idea if she's into girls/questioning. But I do feel a flirtatious vibe from her. We joke that we're together.
Here's the problem. She has this guy that she's kinda trying to get rid of because she doesn't really like him but they've been talking on and off for a long time. And I get it, I also just got out of something similar. Her friends are trying to hook her up with some other guy that she's also confused about... but man I feel like we have a spark. And maybe I'm just so blinded by this early butterfly shit but I just think we really fit together. I do want her to be happy though when it comes down to it because she really is a good person. And I really love her personality, I just want the best for her like no way to describe. I do wish it was me, but I can't expect that it is me.
Do I do anything about this? Stay quiet? I know it's completely weird especially since it's in a workplace, but it's a younger job for like camp counselor type stuff. It's not exactly normal, but it's not frowned upon. I'm really into this girl, and I'm scared to just come out and say it because I don't want to ruin our "friendship" if it's even that.

Edit: In an ideal world I would like a relationship out of this

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    So you are worried if she is into girls? Comment on how attractive another woman is and gauge her reaction. Could spark a convo between the two of you. That's how I usually figure out if a woman I like could potentially be into women and possibly become a girlfriend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Oooo... That's a really good idea! Thank you :)

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        You're welcome and best of luck!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          Update: we're together now :)

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  • jeremybrown50hhh
    4 years ago

    Normal, I married my girl friend last year, we were coworkers dating for 4 years,but yeah we didn't have a third person interfering as in your case. You say she doesn't like the guy, well then if she actually "told" you she wants to get rid of him then tell her your feelings and tell her to do it, but if thats just your observation, don't be so sure and its entirely upto her when she wants to get rid of him, which she likely would if she doesn't want him. After she does this and is single tell her you like her.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    What do you want from her though? You never say specifically. Sex? Relationship?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I just edited to specify, I would preferably like a relationship

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        A sexless relationship? How different is that from what you have now?

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    I dont know what you're after whether it's a serious relationship or just friends with benefits. But I think if my wife was in that situation where she was attracted to some girl at work id think it was really hot and I wouldnt be against them hooking up. So maybe the BF isnt thag big of a deal. Yall could still be best friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I don't necessarily think it'd have to be a serious relationship or anything to start with but I would like it to turn into a relationship if everything worked out.

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