thanks everyone for your help. i'll try my best not to be discouraged and keep looking for people out there like you guys :) just a side question, how can you start to love yourself? i hate myself so much when people ignore me or i can't achieve something i want because i feel like there is something wrong with me. i really don't know how to love myself unless i become good at something or gain approval from others. is there something wrong with me??
You want to know a secret? There is something "wrong" with everybody. Many just choose to ignore that little voice. I think you need to drop-kick yours.
One thing I find helpful is telling myself how awesome I am on a regular basis. And I tell other people they are awesome too. I don't always believe it for myself, but the more I do this, the more I believe it. And then other people start to catch on, it makes me laugh out loud and I end up having a wonderful day. It takes practice.
I didn't have a lot of friends in college and looking back, I realized they didn't meet my standards. They are some of the dullest people I've ever met.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You sound like a kind person. Just try to extend this kindness to yourself.
Just hang in there, just be yourself with people. Now, I'm not saying that everyone will accept you because everyone's completely different. Eventually, you'll make some friends, and whenever they invite you back to theirs or a party or anything, just go for it as that'll give you an opportunity to meet even more people. Just don't feel depressed about it, stay optimistic and you'll be just fine. Good luck, my friend.
I have no friends in college and I feel extremely lonely and depressed
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thanks everyone for your help. i'll try my best not to be discouraged and keep looking for people out there like you guys :) just a side question, how can you start to love yourself? i hate myself so much when people ignore me or i can't achieve something i want because i feel like there is something wrong with me. i really don't know how to love myself unless i become good at something or gain approval from others. is there something wrong with me??
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You want to know a secret? There is something "wrong" with everybody. Many just choose to ignore that little voice. I think you need to drop-kick yours.
One thing I find helpful is telling myself how awesome I am on a regular basis. And I tell other people they are awesome too. I don't always believe it for myself, but the more I do this, the more I believe it. And then other people start to catch on, it makes me laugh out loud and I end up having a wonderful day. It takes practice.
I didn't have a lot of friends in college and looking back, I realized they didn't meet my standards. They are some of the dullest people I've ever met.
Don't be so hard on yourself. You sound like a kind person. Just try to extend this kindness to yourself.
Just hang in there, just be yourself with people. Now, I'm not saying that everyone will accept you because everyone's completely different. Eventually, you'll make some friends, and whenever they invite you back to theirs or a party or anything, just go for it as that'll give you an opportunity to meet even more people. Just don't feel depressed about it, stay optimistic and you'll be just fine. Good luck, my friend.