There is things that he needs to change too, as lovely and brilliant as he is, he needs to make small little changes. Like when you are watching a film together, turn yours and his phone off or put them away somewhere so you both can't be distracted as then your spending time together, other than just sat there watching a film. I takes a long time to be able to march over your issues and it does feel at the time that moment will never arrive. When I was younger, I was the exact person you're describing. I thought I would push my other half away but luckily I managed to sort my head out and I didn't lose him. Five years later and we are still together, in our own house with a son. So it can be done. Take a step at a time. Do you trust the people he is friends with? if you know deep down your boyfriend just goes out because he can and not because he doesnt want to spend time with you, then that can really help kick start with you starting to change. Maybe try something like when he next goes out, and say to him 'have fun, give me a text' then when he's out make sure you don't text him. I'm sure he will text you, and that feeling can make you so happy, because whilst he is out, you know he is thinking about you. And that's not because you text him so he's just replying, it's because he listens to you and cares about you. See what you can do and talk to your bf to see how you can try and work through it. He may have a suggestion to help. Good luck. I hope you get through this together.
I have issues, it's breaking my boyfriend and I apart
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There is things that he needs to change too, as lovely and brilliant as he is, he needs to make small little changes. Like when you are watching a film together, turn yours and his phone off or put them away somewhere so you both can't be distracted as then your spending time together, other than just sat there watching a film. I takes a long time to be able to march over your issues and it does feel at the time that moment will never arrive. When I was younger, I was the exact person you're describing. I thought I would push my other half away but luckily I managed to sort my head out and I didn't lose him. Five years later and we are still together, in our own house with a son. So it can be done. Take a step at a time. Do you trust the people he is friends with? if you know deep down your boyfriend just goes out because he can and not because he doesnt want to spend time with you, then that can really help kick start with you starting to change. Maybe try something like when he next goes out, and say to him 'have fun, give me a text' then when he's out make sure you don't text him. I'm sure he will text you, and that feeling can make you so happy, because whilst he is out, you know he is thinking about you. And that's not because you text him so he's just replying, it's because he listens to you and cares about you. See what you can do and talk to your bf to see how you can try and work through it. He may have a suggestion to help. Good luck. I hope you get through this together.