Hello,
I just wanted to comment because to me this sounds very common. I may not class it as completely normal, only because I don't think it's good for you or your boyfriend on how dependant you are on him. It sounds like you are a young person? and you are still learning yourself and trying to get an understanding to who you are as a person. So to your issue..
Don't beat yourself up about how you handle certain situations I.e being crazy when your boyfriend is going out, as that causes so much more stress to you. Let alone to how stressed your boyfriend could feel.
It's not healthy to rely on one person for everything, it's hard when you want to be that person's world and you hope they would feel the same as you do. But step back from that thought, would you be able to cope if it was the other way around? it would be draining for the both of you. Correct me if I am wrong but trust issues can be such a major holdback on any relationship. I'm just wondering, do you trust him when he is out? because thats the biggest problem to tackle, but once you get started it gets so much easier.
Have you tried to do anything when he does go out? Like watch a movie, bake, read or anything you enjoy doing?
He sounds like a lovely guy and i'm glad for you that you are so close. I know self issues can feel like your carrying the world on your shoulders. But take a day at a time and each day, just note to yourself, I will get a job, I will feel happier in myself and I will make this relationship work and you will both be happy. Things never get better over night so hang in there. Try to see some positives in the negatives, starting with you have a lovely boyfriend who loves you for who you are.
I wish you all the best!
I have issues, it's breaking my boyfriend and I apart
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Hello,
I just wanted to comment because to me this sounds very common. I may not class it as completely normal, only because I don't think it's good for you or your boyfriend on how dependant you are on him. It sounds like you are a young person? and you are still learning yourself and trying to get an understanding to who you are as a person. So to your issue..
Don't beat yourself up about how you handle certain situations I.e being crazy when your boyfriend is going out, as that causes so much more stress to you. Let alone to how stressed your boyfriend could feel.
It's not healthy to rely on one person for everything, it's hard when you want to be that person's world and you hope they would feel the same as you do. But step back from that thought, would you be able to cope if it was the other way around? it would be draining for the both of you. Correct me if I am wrong but trust issues can be such a major holdback on any relationship. I'm just wondering, do you trust him when he is out? because thats the biggest problem to tackle, but once you get started it gets so much easier.
Have you tried to do anything when he does go out? Like watch a movie, bake, read or anything you enjoy doing?
He sounds like a lovely guy and i'm glad for you that you are so close. I know self issues can feel like your carrying the world on your shoulders. But take a day at a time and each day, just note to yourself, I will get a job, I will feel happier in myself and I will make this relationship work and you will both be happy. Things never get better over night so hang in there. Try to see some positives in the negatives, starting with you have a lovely boyfriend who loves you for who you are.
I wish you all the best!
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