I have a question about me & my lady friend.......

74% Normal
4 Comments

Ok. So I meet this girl at school and she's amazing. I've been friends with her for a little less than a year but our friendship didn't really kick off until this summer.. I took her to the mall and she's invited me over to her house numerous times.. but all we do is play card games and watch movies... I know for a fact she liked because we were flirting but I ended up making a huge mistake and hooking up with my ex-girlfriend. That didn't last that long. Maybe a few days, less than a week. I asked her if she wanted to become more than friends.. but she said it would be better if we were just friends for now. This was in February 2009. All these months later we're bonding like never before and I'm just itching to tell her how I feel. But there's a drawback.. if I tell her how I feel.... and she rejects me it could ruin or just make the friendship extremely awkward. But I'd do anything for this girl.. she's special. Any advice?

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago | pl

    Take control - you're in the friend category cuz you're somewhat of a pushover. Take control of the reigns and steer this relationship home! I think she'll appreciate the hint of man-handling you could give her.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    3
    3
  • nuka21
    12 years ago | pl

    go for it! just tell her how you feel.tell her somthing like this,say i really like and have for a long time and im scared if i dont tell you how i feel i will lose you to another guy.and if she says the same thing that she just wants to be you'r friend so let it be,its better to have her as a friend rather then nothing at all,and just wait for her to tell you she's ready to date you.GOOD LUCK♥

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago | pl

    do girls really want guys to take over on a subconcious level? I have a similar problem with this co worker who has a bf and we hang out alot but it seems like she's using me. maybe I'm too nice?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago | pl

    Don't tell her how you feel--at least not yet. Instead, do as Galaxy500 says, and take the reigns. Gradually do things that are more and more intimate, and see how she responds. Don't ask her, just do it. She already trusts you.

    She probably said that it would be better to remain friends "for now," because she doesn't want to risk losing you as a friend. Becoming more intimate with you is a change, and change can sometimes be scary. But, if you handle this gracefully, without creating embarrassing situations, she may very well go along, and thank you for it. If she rejects you at any point, just take it as a temporary rejection of whatever you did, at the time. Don't make a big deal about. She may change her mind later.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0