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I have been "ghosting" people my whole life and only recently realized it, reading about the term "ghosting." Why... I think it's because I don't like to be anchored down or obligated to other people. Also, some people are assholes and I don't want to deal with their BS. My freedom is important to me. Is this selfish? Am I normal for cutting out 95% of the people in my life?
If the people are assholes, then I don't really blame you. But then you might have to ask why you bothered hanging out with them or why you attract so many assholes in the first place..? Maybe you've just been unlucky so far.
But it's bad form if they're decent people and you left them just because they were going through a bad time or something.
Same
I never thought of it as selfish because that'd be assuming I'm of any value to them
I don't think it's normal to always bemail ghosting all your lifelong. Honestly, sometimes I just was to run away from everything, and or curl up in a ball then disappear. I'm not normal of course. The school counselor even used to have these conferences with my folks when I was in fourth and fifth grade. I'm so not normal.
I am so jealous. I bet you are so much more relaxed with life in general. No other peoples BS drama to tell them to PLEASE S. T. F. U. AND GO HOME. LOL
No. If your freedom is so important to you, perhaps you shouldn't get so involved with people. They might feel that you've just used them and thrown them away ect, and that hurts.
I ghost too. I don't always realize it. Some people struggle getting close. Of course, part of it is because of where I'm currently at in life. But even when I was more social when I was younger, I was a ghoster but I just handled it differently. To avoid letting people truly in, I would be over the top with comedy. I've never liked hellos and goodbyes. It's too much. I guess for some people it's shyness and others it's maybe abuse etc
I tend to meet as many people as possible but I don't keep many of them. I'm known by a lot of people as that weird crackhead you always run into on the street at night, but the number of people who I actually know or consider friends is small.
I've always done it and it's not good in the long run. Life is much easier when you have acquaintances that don't hate you. You never know when they can be used as resources either just for friendship, or something else. It's much easier to go through life when people respect you, which usually doesn't happen after you ghost them. You don't have to remain close to everyone, just stay on good terms. It doesn't take much effort at all.