I hate when my bf hangs with his friends

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hey guys im the 20 yr old girl with the 28 yr old "boyfriend" - i dont really know what we are right now.

anyways, him and i had plans tmrw to go to the beach, but its not happening anymore bc his school-mates are getting together to work on a project. i asked him if we could hangout after he gets back and he tells me he cant bc its his friends birthday dinner... I FUCKING HATE HIS FRIENDS. they are nothing but 30-40 yr old gross ass immature jerks. theyve never really been mean to me but their personalities are horrible. he said theyre only gettinf dinner ( i know that his friends will go out after dinner)
and so i asked if we could hangout after and he got annoyed ih me asking that because he knows i only asked to make sure he wouldnt go out afterwards. not gonna lie thats kinda true.

but im just so anxious for tomorrow night and i dont know what to do to calm my anxiety. im most likely gonna drive around looking for his car and making sure hes home by 11. who knows what ill do. i just dont want to be lied to. and its hard for me to text him and he be "hows it going" , "where are yall at now" or whatever bc i dont want to come across as annyoying and i dont want him to think im going backwards in my progress.

i just have a lot of trust issues. im going to therapy but im only on my 3rd session. i just dont know what to do ;( were not hanging that much rn bc we need to work on ourseleves but i think im going to see him easter for a bit.

any help helps... thanks

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Chill, bro.

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago

    as long as he doesnt hang out with them more than you its not a biggie

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Leave him alone.

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    • palehorse
      4 years ago

      I second this statement.

      If your relationship isn't happy then get out of it, but don't regulate his life or bother him constantly like that. Your bf can have friends.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        I think that OP needs to get out of the relationship, and start working on herself. Maybe she should get screened for a personality disorder, because she seems to be addicted to drama.

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        • palehorse
          4 years ago

          Agree. I can understand feeling left out, but it really sounds like this is not a healthy attachment.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          i’m not addicted to drama. that’s why i hate my bf hanging with them in the first place because his friends cause trouble

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            I thought you guys broke up, because of the time he literally kicked you out of the apartment without your stuff, and you had to call the cops. He's just not worth all the fuss.

            Why not take a break, enjoy being single, work on yourself so you will be prepared when you meet someone else who doesn't make you so jealous, and doesn't have so much personal baggage.

            He's probably too old for you anyway, he doesn't really respect you, he does things to make you jealous, and gets angry when you actually do get jealous.

            Also if he's had his guy friends for significantly longer than he's had his relationship with you he'll probably never stop hanging out with them.

            What does your therapist say about this whole situation?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              my therapist is helping me with my emotional issues and helping our relationship essentially. he’s saying that i should go at his pace and display to him that i can be in a healthy relationship and that i shouldn’t drill with him questions

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