I hate my mom

She tried to kill you and the people depending on you to survive. Poison her food. Sounds harsh but an eye for an eye. Once you do it you will be able to bring up the children in a happy stable life. She has ruined the health of her children and causes pain to them. She deserves death but if you arent willing to go that far then like others have said call the authorities.

I agree with the commenter above. Call the police or press charges or just forcefully get her help in SOME way. Poisoning people's food?? Oh hell no. DON'T wait until it's too late and one day you or someone else in the family gets seriously hurt by her actions. Get the woman out of your life. It may sound cruel but there's only so much that you can take with one person if they don't even want to help themselves and aren't trying to change. Show her that you are serious. Whether she needs jail as a wakeup call or to be put in a mental health institution, it's obvious that her problems are too big for you or anyone else in the family to handle. Whatever you do, get your family AWAY from her. If you don't, one day she will hurt someone or milk you dry emotionally/financially or worst of all, one day you yourself will snap and do something to her that will land YOU in jail or a mental health institution.

My Grandfather smoked constantly and drank constantly and was abusive, even when he got lung cancer he still kept smoking and drinking and doing drugs. Many people tried to help him but he just abused them and took advantage of their kindness. Eventually he finally passed on due to the cancer. I wish that he could have gotten some help but some people just don't want it, and you can't allow them to drive you into the ground with their problems.

You definitely need to do something. Lots of people have suggested getting the police involved, and I'm surprised that you haven't already. Lysol? My father used to drink Aqua Velva aftershave when there was no booze in the house, I'm also guessing you meant something else and that the autocorrect kicked in! In any case, you need to get help for yourself and your siblings. If they are FAS, contact social services, or the police will deal with them. Either way they will most likely end up in foster care which is safer, healthier, and better living arrangements for them and you. Once that happens then you should get into therapy and work through all of this BS, so you can have a "normal" productive life! Good luck. Seriously--- GET HELP NOW! Don't wait until someone is dead.

Don't kill her, cause you will be the one who will stuck in jail. Call the police.

damn

If you think that after you'll feel crap, even though she tries to kill u, try counselling. I'm the eldest as well and my mum hot drunk and used her illnesses as an excuse for beating me and emotionally blackmailing me with my siblings. The only reason I didn't go to social services is because she doesn't do this to them and I don't want to take their mum away. You however do need to do that, before someone gets killed. Don't worry, they WILL understand y u had them put into care.

Believable UNTIL the Lysol.

You know that you can have her put in inpatient recovery right? Like, you can take her to court and they will make her go.

The best thing to do might be to get her arrested for domestic violence, then she'd be stuck in jail and have to sober up. You could use the arrest to do a couple things: one, to get her help. Talk to the prosecutor that will be handling the case and tell him about her alcohol problems, see what they can do. They CAN give people a choice of rehab or jail. two, if she gets arrested, use it to help you get guardianship or custody of your siblings. They shouldn't be in that situation. and she sounds like she might just be using the kids to get benefits, which just helps her continue drinking.