I hate my husband

He's probably losing testosterone. Get him on trt. His mood should improve along with your love life. Worth a shot at least before you pull the trigger on the marriage.

Divorce that ass!

You loved him at one point right? I think you need to sit down with him when the time is right and he'll take it seriously, and explain to him how you feel now. Tell him what he's doing that annoys you, and listen to him when he says things to you that annoy him, and try to work through them.

I wish you well, good luck!

My ex had me so stressed out, back then, I wanted to fuck the whole community. That led to DUI. GET OUT take your looses. take time off to your self become a whore for a while. Best place for you to go is back with your parents where you can reset yourself, sleep in your teenage room again.

He is 1 of those that sucks the life of everything around them.

Then start a fresh new relation. But you need to find yourself 1st & catch up some on all that lost good fucking you missed. You're wearing my old boots right now, mama. ...GET OUT !! ( fuck that niggah)

Seems rather normal that you'd feel that way after being together for so long. Perhaps it's better to just end the relationship ?

There's nothing wrong with ending it, especially if you'd be happier without him

It's normal for relationships to go through phases, and not many go on for decades of mutual blissful contentment.

The early days are usually pretty intense, but not many people can handle that insanity for long. So the relationship shifts into something a little calmer, where both people start to notice the other's failings, but they don't matter much because they're still in the warm, fuzzy afterglow of infatuation. After that, comes the difficult bit, during which you have to figure out how to deal with various conflicts, tensions and disagreements. If both people care about the other person and respect them, they both have a fair degree of emotional maturity and they're both willing to compromise and put in the work necessary to make the relationship work, then that's usually possible. In other cases, people decide that since they're no longer feeling pop-song lurve, then the other person has suddenly become an asshole, the relationship is dead, and the only option is to move on.

From what you say, it sounds like your husband is not a happy person. It also seems that he no longer respects you (assuming he ever did), he isn't too concerned about your happiness and he's probably taking you for granted.

It's possible that you've grown as a person over the years and your view of the world has slowly shifted, while he's remained stuck, so your perception of him has changed. Or you might have remained more or less the same in general outlook, while he's changed in ways that are incompatible with that.

Whatever the case, if he's not willing to talk to you calmly and rationally about the things you find unpleasant about your relationship as it is now, or if you're really certain that there's no way you can ever enjoy living with the guy again, then obviously you need to start looking for a way out.

Staying in a loveless relationship that you're sure has no chance of ever getting better is soul-destroying, and you'd be doing neither him or yourself any favours if you stuck to your marriage vows out of a sense of duty, or because this was the easiest thing to do.

Dump him ASAP. Why be in a relationship like that unless you like abuse. You did not list even 1 thing you like about him.

He sounds toxic and you need to make a big decision .
Put up with it or set you're self free ?

i voted normal because unfortunately many married people hate each other. if you cant stand him just fucking divorce him. marriage is known as this thing where it makes couples hate each other and it's like just fucking get a divorce. why are you married to someone you hate?

it normal just not healthy :(

THERE IS NOTHING NORMAL about how you describe him treating you! Don't let anyone here try and make an excuse for him! Divorce him and move forward with your life. He's sounds no good. Abuse comes in forms other than physical.

Its not normal. Me and my wife do fine.

Don’t spend another second with someone who is mean to you like the way he is. You know you should end a relationship with someone when you’re happier when they aren’t around. It’s a big sign. Leave him, and find someone that’ll make you happy and love you the way you deserve. But of course think about it. Do you want to try to rekindle the flame or done with his ass? Up to you.

Go on a vacation away from him to create space between you two

How long has it been this way?

Marriage has nothing to do with your feelings.

Is it alright if I ask you if ya'll have any kids?

I genuinely think you should get a divorce. You sound very unhappy in the relationship and nothing good comes from staying in a bad marriage

If this is a sexless marriage, move into a separate bedroom. You need more distance.

Valid complaints, but given the way you talk about it I’m thinking you both may be awful/entitled poops. There’s one side, the other side, and the truth that’s usually in the middle.

It sounds like he's totally pissed of with you as well!

Has it ever dawned on you that he might think you're a huge pain in the backside?