I hate my father

He is a deadbeat, and is pretty much useless for the most part. He never helped me with my studies since I was young. He has no job and has put us in poverty. Whenever my mom beats me up, he does nothing except come and look at her beating me up, and passively agreeing with my mom. He constantly embarrasses me in front of friends and teachers.

I am very detached from him at this point, and honestly I couldn't care less if he dies. He has never been a father figure for me.

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  • Boojum

    You'd have to be pretty damn masochistic to love someone who treated you as you describe. Speaking as a father, I strongly believe that kids should not be expected to love and respect their parents, regardless of how they behave and what sort of people they are.

    My father's behavior wasn't nearly as bad as yours, but his emotional detachment did create problems for me later in life.

    It seems to me that about all you can get from your father are lessons on how you don't want to be, how you don't want to treat people, and how you don't want to live your life.

    That's messed up, but it's the hand you've unfortunately been dealt.

    Be aware that when the time comes for you to want to create an intimate relationship with someone, you might have problems. Kids learn how to behave in such relationships by observing adults from a very early age, and it sounds like your role-models were not very good. That doesn't mean you have no chance of ever making a relationship like that work, but you may find that you need to pay attention to what you say, how you act, and how you respond to the other person, and try to understand why that is and how you can do better.

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    • Yup, as stereotypical as it sounds for teens, but I really hate my parents. Not because of my teenage angst, but because I realize to what extent my family is dysfunctional. It has caused me to be socially retarded and lacking in discipline in my relationships as you pointed out.

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  • Anongirl26

    Totally fine. You should hate him. I hate my mom, she abused me. It's okay.. this is your mind and body protecting you from letting that person hurt you again. So hate them.

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  • Kevinevan

    How does one person "put" another person into poverty. Did he drive you to a trailer park and leave you there?

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    • It's pretty obvious what I am trying to express here. By his lack of a job, my family has barely any income.

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      • Kevinevan

        Then get your own fucking job and stop freeloading.

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  • Nickvey

    the last time your mother beat your ass off. what were you doing. i just want to see what we are dealing with first before i can rule

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    • I got a B in biology instead of an A like she wanted. My mom's a maniac.

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  • Davebettermen

    You sound like typical white trailer trash. So nobody gives a fuck about you. Go away.

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