I hate letting people know about me

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For some reason I hate letting anyone know about me. If they ask me a question no matter how small or insignificant it is like "what did you do yesterday, or what did you have for dinner?" I always try to ignore the question or brush it off and ask them something else. Every time anyone starts getting into a deep personal conversation with me I try my hardest to not reveal anything while letting the other person talk. I've even stopped dating because after a while whoever I date always tries to learn more about me and gets angry when I try to keep them away.

I used to get away with this before but it's starting to affect my relationships with my friends and family. After I got into trouble at my college and went to jail for 3 days for a small offense. One of my friends found out and asked me what happened, I tried to brush it off like it wasn't anything important, but she pressed me on until she cornered me and called me out in front of the rest of my friends. I got into a fight with her and made her cry which I feel horrible about. She told me that she tells me everything but I don't bother to tell her. And the sad part was she was one of my closest friends.

Then I realized how much I hid from everyone, even my family, I hid things that weren't anything to be ashamed of even hid like my favorite kinds of food or the hobbies I've been doing from my parents. I always thought this was normal but I don't know anymore. Was my friend over reacting or should I start opening up to people? Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago | pl

    i see that nobody finds incongruity in someone giving a personal rant to let people know about how they hate letting people know things about himself.

    personally, i HATE leaving comments on websites. it's so not me!

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  • oldrooster4
    12 years ago | pl

    do you like eggs? do you like cabbage?
    what did you do yesterday? what is your favourite hockey team? what is your favourite pokemon? mudkip?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago | pl

    People build relationships by sharing feelings and information. It's just the way it works. Without opening up, you'll only ever get to a certain level in your relationships. I promise you it's worth the effort just for having people to confide in, people you trust.

    I suppose the question you need to ask is what exactly you're scared of? No-one says you have to put your entire life in the line straight away. You can start with small things and build up your confidence with sharing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    If you arent intending to change then start telling lies that wont upset or annoy people.

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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago | pl

    I don't think it's normal, but I am like that too. I don't know exactly why but I feel like if I let people know anything about me they will somehow sometime use that information to hurt me. Or sometimes with some things, make judgements.

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