It definitely sounds like you want to protect the idea of females as pure, with an almost divine stature. It also sounds like you have been taught or embraced the idea that penetrative sex is inherently degrading or immoral: therefore a woman who enjoys it is equally so.
Another bit on the matter is that many men do not find it attractive when women lead the hunt, as it were. They want to be the ones in control, in the pursuit of the sex and relationships. If a woman is as much "on the prowl" as he is, then he can't say that it was a full conquest. He wants to know he's been where others have failed to enter, that it took his prowess to crack the nut, setting him apart and making his mate a trophy and attribute to his stature.
Lets also not forget the angle of loathing the male form, which you say you can't understand a woman being attracted to. If you are heterosexual male, this makes sense. Of course it's easier to wrap your brain around lesbian sex, you like women, you understand innately attraction to women. Attraction to men, is scary for more than that reason though. If a woman is attracted to a man, then she could be attracted to any man the way a man can be attracted to any woman: this vision of the situation can induce pre-emptive jealousy and defensiveness.
I think it's important that you know that there are many different kinds of women out there, who wear their sexuality very differently. It seems with your present issues, and I do consider them to be ISSUES, you would be best suited to look for a mate who see's sex as something to be shared with one person only, and is not a visual creature (the latter should be easier as most women are distinctly NOT visual).
Sex has evolved a long way past the cave man days of bashing a woman in the head with a stick and dragging her off to the cave. We are not merely creatures of instinct, we are creatures who embrace the concept of self discipline and control as well as enjoyment. I think your views on sexuality are archaic and definitely tainted by the things you've experienced and witnessed in your life; that therapy would not be a mistake to help you adjust your specs.
There's nothing wrong with still not being attracted to someone who has sex with anything that comes along: concern for ones own health notwithstanding, most of us also want to feel like the sex means something beyond mere fornication. A partner who is more carnal, or visceral than oneself can be off putting, and that's fine. But when your beliefs are so puritanical that they prohibit you from developing any relationship at all: there's a bigger issue to be dealt with.
I Hate Female Sexuality
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It definitely sounds like you want to protect the idea of females as pure, with an almost divine stature. It also sounds like you have been taught or embraced the idea that penetrative sex is inherently degrading or immoral: therefore a woman who enjoys it is equally so.
Another bit on the matter is that many men do not find it attractive when women lead the hunt, as it were. They want to be the ones in control, in the pursuit of the sex and relationships. If a woman is as much "on the prowl" as he is, then he can't say that it was a full conquest. He wants to know he's been where others have failed to enter, that it took his prowess to crack the nut, setting him apart and making his mate a trophy and attribute to his stature.
Lets also not forget the angle of loathing the male form, which you say you can't understand a woman being attracted to. If you are heterosexual male, this makes sense. Of course it's easier to wrap your brain around lesbian sex, you like women, you understand innately attraction to women. Attraction to men, is scary for more than that reason though. If a woman is attracted to a man, then she could be attracted to any man the way a man can be attracted to any woman: this vision of the situation can induce pre-emptive jealousy and defensiveness.
I think it's important that you know that there are many different kinds of women out there, who wear their sexuality very differently. It seems with your present issues, and I do consider them to be ISSUES, you would be best suited to look for a mate who see's sex as something to be shared with one person only, and is not a visual creature (the latter should be easier as most women are distinctly NOT visual).
Sex has evolved a long way past the cave man days of bashing a woman in the head with a stick and dragging her off to the cave. We are not merely creatures of instinct, we are creatures who embrace the concept of self discipline and control as well as enjoyment. I think your views on sexuality are archaic and definitely tainted by the things you've experienced and witnessed in your life; that therapy would not be a mistake to help you adjust your specs.
There's nothing wrong with still not being attracted to someone who has sex with anything that comes along: concern for ones own health notwithstanding, most of us also want to feel like the sex means something beyond mere fornication. A partner who is more carnal, or visceral than oneself can be off putting, and that's fine. But when your beliefs are so puritanical that they prohibit you from developing any relationship at all: there's a bigger issue to be dealt with.