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I never have been in a party. I always find an excuse to stay at home. I hate every social situation. I'm stressed everywhere outside my appartment. I have some close friends, but Im 18 and still no girlfriend because I havent see a girl for 2 years lol.
Im pretty sure I have a problem, I hate christmas lol...
am i normal?
Sorry I don't speak english very well.
There's nothing weird about that. Socializing is work. You have to use strategy, you have to seem a certain way, while actually thinking something else, etc. Some people say 'just be yourself,' but that's a bunch of bullshit. Once you get sort of comfortable navigating your way around social situations, your real self will start to emerge, but the bottom line is that socializing is not like breathing or eating. You have to get off your ass and do it...then you'll be even happier when you finally do it!
I'm sure your a very nice friendly guy. And I bet lots of girls would go out with. I have not met anybody really nice yet. Haha you'll find somebody don't worry!!! ;)
You obviously don't like being anti-social, so get off your ass and make yourself go to some parties, events, etc. At first you'll seem stilted and nervous, but that's the price you have to pay. Just keep going to more of them. Don't just stand around, either. Go up to someone and talk to them. Groups of people tend to ignore introverted people. If you're really desperate, come up with a list of 'openers' you can use with people; little conversation subjects you've thought of in advance. Don't practice around people you see every day. Go to some parties/events where nobody really knows you first so you can make the big leap without having to worry about consequences if you screw up. Just keep doing it, and try to get peoples' phone numbers so you can call them and hang out with them. If they reject you, just go up to the next person and try again, etc etc. Eventually you'll get good at it.
Thank you so much!!!!
I dunno how i will do that, but I dont wanna be alone all my life.
A friend just invited me to a party tomorrow. Ill try your tips
Have a nice day and thank you again
One more thing - don't even think about acting obnoxious, rude, or judgmental in a group situation. Don't act like you know everything and you'll be fine. You'll notice that some of the most popular people will break all these rules, however. This might confuse you. They'll say "fuck you" to someone, and then they'll hug each other or walk around smiling afterward. This is more complex social dynamics, and just stick to simple stuff at first. Learning to make rude exclamations in public without pissing anybody off is a difficult skill, and like any skill, some people were born with a natural talent for it. They also probably had many siblings to practice with as they grew up. All the best
GOD DAMN
12h53 Am, im still at my appartment alone doing some math problems...
I cant go there lol
Maybe its not for me all that social stuff.
is it normal that im happy alone and I dont need to go out? The only problem is that. I have no girlfriend... Nobody needs a man whos socially retarded -_-. I think im sick, dunno something like the avoidant personnality disorder. Maybe I should see a therapist?
I cant imagine myself in a party. I cant imagine myself speak to a stranger. I walk everyday at the fourth floor to avoid every1 at school. Im stressed everywhere. I hate to have any kind of attention.Im embarrassed when they sing to me at my birthday. I didnt go to graduation party at my high school(every1 was there except me)
I dunno why! Im not ugly or something like this.
I think ill stay virgin all my life lol.
with this fear, I cant find new friends or date with a girl.
Im probably not the only one with this problem. It would be nice that I find a girl like me XD
What do you think?
have you ever read about " esquizoid" is not an illness is a kind of Personality, I have it , lot of people have it. Read about , undertand it and you will live better. Sure you will get a girlfriend, and get married and everything.. no hurry !, take your time, the perfect one will come, ..no hurry... go easy
Aww I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I hate being so anti social too. I'm always at home like a loser.
Google "social anxiety." Sound familiar? Or like you said, it could be another one of those fancy disorder things. I can't tell you which one, but the universal truth is that it sucks. Dammit I'm 18 too and haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship because of this very problem with me. Socialising is just...so far removed from what I know that I can't imagine it. Yeah, sure, I'd love to have fun, but "social situations" intimidate me.
It's not that I'm ugly either - I'm just...sigh...you've already coined my favourite phrase - socially retarded.
I keep saying that being a virgin isn't that big a deal and there are more important things in life, but I don't want to be a virgin till I'm 30 or something! I want to enjoy it whilst I'm still young fucks sake. I don't want to rot away at home. There, I said it.
Anyway, good luck and have a nice life ;(
Oh yeah, I SURE AM in a good mood right now, you just can't tell over the internet.
Ok, thank you for the advice
XD
I cant imagine myself in a party, im nervous!
Hi
It's been a few years since the original post, I'm just wondering how your doing now? Has anything changed? I hope you have come to terms with yourself and feel better
hey why dont you ask your doctor for some panic attack pills and take one before you socialise,-it really helps,you'll be surprised how well it might work out for you,people take them for stage fright before they have to perform before the audience,you have maybe a similar problem?!!!
the society rejects you and that makes you feel hopeless,so in order for you to maintain some form of control over your disteny you claim that you rejected socitey.
You definitely have some kinda social phobia. No worries there's a ton of people who struggle with it, including me. I avoid parties & at social events i'm very much a wallflower. I enjoy being alone most of the time, yet I don't like being alone for too long because I get lonely haha.. weird. But anyways there's nothing wrong with being socially awkward. Sometimes you just gotta force yourself out there. People won't judge you as much as you think. Just go for it :D
you suffer from social anxiety... get medicated with benzos... youll be fine
maybe you're depressed, try to join soem club and practice sports to get to know knew people,thats not normal!!