Christine. The most important questions are what do you want, and why?
It is best that you decide who you want to have sex with and when - under all situations in life. Now, that may be an active desire on your part, or you may passively allow another to have sex with you our of care and compassion for the other person and to take care of their desires or needs. But, you get to decide that. No one else.
A key point is that just because you agreed to or allowed someone to have sex with you once (or the nth time).... does not mean that you have to agree to have sex with them again.
You can withdraw consent at any time. That is your right; and I personally believe it is your responsibility and you will feel much better about yourself as you age the sooner you take active control of your decision on who and when you have sex (this includes sexual play).
The truth is that a number of brothers and sisters have sex. my estimate from my high school years based on known cases within a high school with about 1000 students is that at least 5% of them do so. So, you and your bothers did a normal and common thing. Some of those were destructive to the relationship (where the desire and willingness was not balanced). Some were loving and caring and the brother and sister are still on wonderful terms today (decades later).
There are a variety of moral and personal values involved. There is no right or wrong answer to those. The questions are what are your values and what is your relationship with your brother; why did you have sex in the first place, how did you enjoy it, what concerns do you have, and what are your desires to do so again. I would point out that it is not uncommon for someone to have enjoyed at least part of the experience; but, want to have more rules and controls on future sex with that partner. Birth & STD controls should be discussed and options decided on (and it's actually OK if you decide not to use either - it's your lives - just that you are responsible for the results).
You are here asking for help. So I gather that you are not desiring for this to continue - at least as often as your brother desires. The right thing to do is tell your brother what your desires are. That may range from "I don't see us doing it ever again" to potentially, I would not mind it now and then, and only if you use a condom and we are not actively involved with someone else; or even I think "Jane" or "Jim" should join us for a threesome (or I'd like to try a threesome), etc. Another possible answer is that you may want to try it again and that he needs to help you have more pleasure from it. It's up to you.
Figure out what you want - and what your terms are. You have 100% full rights to decide who, when, and under what conditions you have sex with.
I Had Sex With My Brother, And He Wants More
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Christine. The most important questions are what do you want, and why?
It is best that you decide who you want to have sex with and when - under all situations in life. Now, that may be an active desire on your part, or you may passively allow another to have sex with you our of care and compassion for the other person and to take care of their desires or needs. But, you get to decide that. No one else.
A key point is that just because you agreed to or allowed someone to have sex with you once (or the nth time).... does not mean that you have to agree to have sex with them again.
You can withdraw consent at any time. That is your right; and I personally believe it is your responsibility and you will feel much better about yourself as you age the sooner you take active control of your decision on who and when you have sex (this includes sexual play).
The truth is that a number of brothers and sisters have sex. my estimate from my high school years based on known cases within a high school with about 1000 students is that at least 5% of them do so. So, you and your bothers did a normal and common thing. Some of those were destructive to the relationship (where the desire and willingness was not balanced). Some were loving and caring and the brother and sister are still on wonderful terms today (decades later).
There are a variety of moral and personal values involved. There is no right or wrong answer to those. The questions are what are your values and what is your relationship with your brother; why did you have sex in the first place, how did you enjoy it, what concerns do you have, and what are your desires to do so again. I would point out that it is not uncommon for someone to have enjoyed at least part of the experience; but, want to have more rules and controls on future sex with that partner. Birth & STD controls should be discussed and options decided on (and it's actually OK if you decide not to use either - it's your lives - just that you are responsible for the results).
You are here asking for help. So I gather that you are not desiring for this to continue - at least as often as your brother desires. The right thing to do is tell your brother what your desires are. That may range from "I don't see us doing it ever again" to potentially, I would not mind it now and then, and only if you use a condom and we are not actively involved with someone else; or even I think "Jane" or "Jim" should join us for a threesome (or I'd like to try a threesome), etc. Another possible answer is that you may want to try it again and that he needs to help you have more pleasure from it. It's up to you.
Figure out what you want - and what your terms are. You have 100% full rights to decide who, when, and under what conditions you have sex with.
I wish you the best with this,