She could also argue that OP is being selfish by refusing to take allergy medication.
I myself would never date anyone who doesn't like cats, or is allergic, because I love cats even though I'm somewhat allergic myself. I choose to take medication, because my life is 100% better with feline companionship. I'd take my cat over having a boyfriend any day of the week. Unfortunately, OP had the misfortune of finding out that his ex-girlfriend is like me a little too late. Hopefully he will discuss these sort of matters with the women he dates in the future from the very beginning.
I disagree with this. There are no medications that stop severe allergies that are safe to take on a long term basis. Yes, you can shut down your immune system for short periods of time to recover, which leaves you at risk for other infections and problems - and the very medications that do this also produce other harmful side effects if used for more than a short time.
I know all of this as I too am highly allergic to cats - and sustained cat exposure beyond a few minutes could actually kill me.
I'd also like to point out that even if someone list in their dating profile that they are highly allergic to cats - many women with cats don't believe it ( or don't believe that they are allergic to their cat for some reason). Not only that if things look good and you end up talking that they will often lie about having cats when you ask them on the phone (or skype,etc now). I was on dating sites for almost 15 years with such a statement, and always asked if somoene had cats - and about half the Ladies I met in person turned out to have cats - and were amazed that I started to react just from the cat dander on their clothing. Been there, done that, far to many times to count.
Edited to add: My wife gave up her cat to marry me; which is an extremely rare Lady.
I'm the last person who would ever hide my love of cats, and particularly my love of Siamese cats! To be completely honest I'm the sort of person who shouts her love of cats from the rooftops for all to hear. I would NEVER EVER give up having cats to marry anyone, because it would only guarantee me a life of misery, and perpetual resentment for my partner, and his allergies.
My mother even once had a cat that I was so violently allergic to that I was starting to develop asthma like symptoms. My mom told me that someone stole the kitten, but I suspect she gave it away. I'm probably doing really well with my cat now, because I have pretty much quit smoking tobacco, and I recently learned from several articles online that Siamese cats are considered hypoallergenic, or at least significantly less allergic than the regular mongrel sort of cats. Honestly, I would very much like to see an allergist, and get the weekly shots to get rid of all of my allergies. I also wash my cat, and keep him indoors.
For most animal lovers there's simply no reason to give up their favorite pet, or pets in order to be with someone who either doesn't like animals, or is allergic. I don't say any of this to be rude, or spiteful. I simply say it, because it's what holds most true to me in my heart. I have had zero interest in dating for the past few years, but when I used to date my first question has, is and always will be whether or not the person likes animals, specifically cats, and dogs. I've literally met a man in a drinking establishment who was interested in me, and after he told me that he didn't have pets, because he said animals are too much responsibility, and he's not really into animals I said, "well, it was nice meeting you. Goodbye, and good luck." I would never give up animals for anyone, it would such a waste be of my life!
She didn't know she would be getting a cat; her coworker gave it to her. It perhaps wasn't known that cat allergies even needed to be discussed until it happened - after all, you can't cover everything. The bf came first in this case.
I'm going to respectfully disagree, because maybe she thought he was fine with having a cat, and perhaps she was entirely unaware that he had allergies in the first place. There's no point in them staying together. God knows I would certainly be completely miserable in a relationship with a man where I could not have a feline companion. I don't think she should prioritize the man over the cat when to stay with the man would mean that she could never have a cat. At least they weren't married. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than without a good Siamese bestfriend!
Awww. I imagine you love cats so much that you couldn't keep your intention to have a cat secret from the person you're dating for very long. I so wish I wasn't allergic to cats.
P.S. She already broke up with him. I don't think she is selfish. In the long run I think she made the decision that will end up being best for all parties concerned. It would be unfair for her to be expected to give up her love of cats! Certainly there's someone better for OP out there in this big wide world!
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She is just selfish, caring about some cat than you.
You should break up with her and find someone else.
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She could also argue that OP is being selfish by refusing to take allergy medication.
I myself would never date anyone who doesn't like cats, or is allergic, because I love cats even though I'm somewhat allergic myself. I choose to take medication, because my life is 100% better with feline companionship. I'd take my cat over having a boyfriend any day of the week. Unfortunately, OP had the misfortune of finding out that his ex-girlfriend is like me a little too late. Hopefully he will discuss these sort of matters with the women he dates in the future from the very beginning.
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I disagree with this. There are no medications that stop severe allergies that are safe to take on a long term basis. Yes, you can shut down your immune system for short periods of time to recover, which leaves you at risk for other infections and problems - and the very medications that do this also produce other harmful side effects if used for more than a short time.
I know all of this as I too am highly allergic to cats - and sustained cat exposure beyond a few minutes could actually kill me.
I'd also like to point out that even if someone list in their dating profile that they are highly allergic to cats - many women with cats don't believe it ( or don't believe that they are allergic to their cat for some reason). Not only that if things look good and you end up talking that they will often lie about having cats when you ask them on the phone (or skype,etc now). I was on dating sites for almost 15 years with such a statement, and always asked if somoene had cats - and about half the Ladies I met in person turned out to have cats - and were amazed that I started to react just from the cat dander on their clothing. Been there, done that, far to many times to count.
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I'm the last person who would ever hide my love of cats, and particularly my love of Siamese cats! To be completely honest I'm the sort of person who shouts her love of cats from the rooftops for all to hear. I would NEVER EVER give up having cats to marry anyone, because it would only guarantee me a life of misery, and perpetual resentment for my partner, and his allergies.
My mother even once had a cat that I was so violently allergic to that I was starting to develop asthma like symptoms. My mom told me that someone stole the kitten, but I suspect she gave it away. I'm probably doing really well with my cat now, because I have pretty much quit smoking tobacco, and I recently learned from several articles online that Siamese cats are considered hypoallergenic, or at least significantly less allergic than the regular mongrel sort of cats. Honestly, I would very much like to see an allergist, and get the weekly shots to get rid of all of my allergies. I also wash my cat, and keep him indoors.
For most animal lovers there's simply no reason to give up their favorite pet, or pets in order to be with someone who either doesn't like animals, or is allergic. I don't say any of this to be rude, or spiteful. I simply say it, because it's what holds most true to me in my heart. I have had zero interest in dating for the past few years, but when I used to date my first question has, is and always will be whether or not the person likes animals, specifically cats, and dogs. I've literally met a man in a drinking establishment who was interested in me, and after he told me that he didn't have pets, because he said animals are too much responsibility, and he's not really into animals I said, "well, it was nice meeting you. Goodbye, and good luck." I would never give up animals for anyone, it would such a waste be of my life!
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I feel it wouldn’t be IIN without your love for cats, especially Andrew.
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Thanks!
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Here is some catnip for you Rose.
She didn't know she would be getting a cat; her coworker gave it to her. It perhaps wasn't known that cat allergies even needed to be discussed until it happened - after all, you can't cover everything. The bf came first in this case.
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I'm going to respectfully disagree, because maybe she thought he was fine with having a cat, and perhaps she was entirely unaware that he had allergies in the first place. There's no point in them staying together. God knows I would certainly be completely miserable in a relationship with a man where I could not have a feline companion. I don't think she should prioritize the man over the cat when to stay with the man would mean that she could never have a cat. At least they weren't married. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than without a good Siamese bestfriend!
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Awww. I imagine you love cats so much that you couldn't keep your intention to have a cat secret from the person you're dating for very long. I so wish I wasn't allergic to cats.
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Yeah, I wear my love for cats, and dogs on my sleeve. 😊
P.S. She already broke up with him. I don't think she is selfish. In the long run I think she made the decision that will end up being best for all parties concerned. It would be unfair for her to be expected to give up her love of cats! Certainly there's someone better for OP out there in this big wide world!