Don't use "dating sites and apps," use HER and Just She. eHarmony has also rolled its same-sex dating into the main site. I can't tell you much about that, but since eHarmony was always about a deadly serious scientific search for a lifelong partner, it might be worth a look.
Don't go to "LGBT events," go to a lesbian bar. When you don't feel like dealing with the anxiety that causes, go to a gay bar. Not a highfalutin club or nightlife hookup site, just your neighborhood gay bar.
This is from a male perspective, but no one wants a partner who NEEDS a partner. You may be doing something to signal that you need to be part of a couple. Some of what you've said here would be a red flag to me if you were looking for a male partner: "I'd do anything..." "I crave affection..." It's a sad fact, but while these things are true of almost everyone, people who reveal it too hard - rather than appearing to be self-realized and a net gain waiting to happen - scare away potential partners by suggesting that you need a great deal from others while being unsure of how much you can give.
Above all else, don't stay home and wait for the Internet to fix your troubles. Spend most of your time out of the house, surrounded by a variety of people. Hang out at bars and cafes, go to shows - go to a LOT of shows - get involved in community stuff. Easier said than done in our current situation, so go easy on yourself for now, but once this mess is over (knock on wood) put yourself out there and stay out there.
Thanks for the elaborate reply but I don't go around portraying how I "need a partner", I just internally wish and constantly wonder why I cant find one. More so in particular I'm looking for a female relationship as I'm more attracted to them. I have been to LGBT events, tried all dating sites for 2 yrs! I been to gay clubs and the odd gay bar.
I give up finding a date IIN I'm 26 and never had a relationship?
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Don't use "dating sites and apps," use HER and Just She. eHarmony has also rolled its same-sex dating into the main site. I can't tell you much about that, but since eHarmony was always about a deadly serious scientific search for a lifelong partner, it might be worth a look.
Don't go to "LGBT events," go to a lesbian bar. When you don't feel like dealing with the anxiety that causes, go to a gay bar. Not a highfalutin club or nightlife hookup site, just your neighborhood gay bar.
This is from a male perspective, but no one wants a partner who NEEDS a partner. You may be doing something to signal that you need to be part of a couple. Some of what you've said here would be a red flag to me if you were looking for a male partner: "I'd do anything..." "I crave affection..." It's a sad fact, but while these things are true of almost everyone, people who reveal it too hard - rather than appearing to be self-realized and a net gain waiting to happen - scare away potential partners by suggesting that you need a great deal from others while being unsure of how much you can give.
Above all else, don't stay home and wait for the Internet to fix your troubles. Spend most of your time out of the house, surrounded by a variety of people. Hang out at bars and cafes, go to shows - go to a LOT of shows - get involved in community stuff. Easier said than done in our current situation, so go easy on yourself for now, but once this mess is over (knock on wood) put yourself out there and stay out there.
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Thanks for the elaborate reply but I don't go around portraying how I "need a partner", I just internally wish and constantly wonder why I cant find one. More so in particular I'm looking for a female relationship as I'm more attracted to them. I have been to LGBT events, tried all dating sites for 2 yrs! I been to gay clubs and the odd gay bar.