I get nervous when im in public, help please!

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Hey people, I've been reading a bunch of the different things on this site about being shy in public, and i need help...
A few girls tell me in cute, and that makes me feel good temporarily, but when im with a group, say at school, i just cant bring myself to talk. At home i try to practice, and i can talk easy when nobody else is there, and once i build up trust with someone i cant alk easily to 'em.

But in public i need to talk! i keep saying "this will be the time i talk and make more friends" but when im actually in the situation i just cant open my mouth, i dont feel uncompfortable sitting and listening, i just dont like to talk, i usually prefer listening and analyzing what they say, is that normal? im a straight A student, and dont mess around with the "cool" kids who seem to only be out to get attention.

I envy the people who can just walk into a conversation and have interesting things to say, yet cant bring myself even tho i will with all my might for "this to be the time"

Help please! or if your like this, post your story and what you do :-)

Thank you!

~neal

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  • kit-kat-bar
    10 years ago | pl

    practice on chatroullete.com cause you will never have to see those people again..

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago | pl

    Pray

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    yea i understand your pain i am really shy too yet beacause of that i end up plunging myself into conversations though i have many friends i always want to make more and i am the shy type so i end up not saying a word the best way to get rid of your shyness is to enter the relms of converations with a friend.when im with a friend my shyness decreases alittle.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    I have the same problemo, I HAVE CRAZY SHYNESSSSS! I CAN ONLY TALK KAQSHEBF on the InTERRneet! You should POO POO THE POOH! meaning dont think at all when you say things and make them sound weird so people will become interested when they talk to you.

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  • xmegwoodx
    13 years ago | pl

    Aw I know how you feel. I have had this same type of problem my whole life.

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  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago | pl

    You are very analytical. Most people around you say stuff without thinking about it too much. You want to say things that are intelligent (or funny or interesting), but there isn't sufficient time to think about what to say, and you don't want to sound stupid, so you remain silent. Am I right?

    This all comes with practice. It sounds like you are trying to make too big a leap. I would suggest taking small steps. First, talk to complete strangers, just one at a time. Go to a shopping mall, and talk to the store clerks. Pretend you're looking for clothing, or something. Talk to people at school, one at a time, away from the others.

    Then practice talking to two people at once. Talk to two guys; then two girls. Talk to people in the street. Only then progress up to groups of 3 or 4. Eventually, you'll be able to talk in front of the whole class.

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