I gave him my body, what now?

We broke up. He wants to cause he is tired, gets fed up. Now I'm left hanging, feeling useless. Were together for 5 years, but I was willing to gave my body to him when we reached 3 years already, didn't happened just once but that time I was never thinking of any doubt. And now, that we broke up,I wonder how could he ever woke up in the morning act like nothing? He didnt even think someone was hurt of what he did? He promised for a marriage but he dumped me just like that? I lost myself, I lost my confidence, feeling incompetent and unlovable. Will someone still accepts me? So hard.

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  • Sounds like you were expecting to marry this guy, but for whatever reason he tired of the relationship, and choose to leave. Breakups aren't easy, and this is especially true if your not the one doing the breaking up of the relationship. My suggestion to you is to google how to get over a painful breakup. If you find yourself unable to cope, or function you may have to enlist the help of a therapist, or counselor.

    Please know that this is not the end of the world, and you are not defined by your relationship status. You are a whole, and complete person, and you don't need a partner to complete you.

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  • Move on, find someone else.

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  • You will be fine, it sucks but you don't have much choice.

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  • He's an asshole. You don't need him. It might not seem like it right now but pretty soon you will forget about him and move on. Next time make sure the guy is worth your time. They aren't all assholes, there are some lovely people in this world. Insist on holding out for one of the good ones. You deserve it!

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    • Thank you for understanding me. 😢

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  • Listen young lady, DO NOT LET A JACKASS HAVE THAT SORT OF CONTROL OVER YOU. You need to be strong for yourself, realize he is not the one. There are more guys out there that will be interested inyou. BUT AGAIN IT MIGHT BE JUST SEX THEY WANT. Have better self control and self worth. Majority of guys are just ho bags trying to get their dick wet. Do NOT ASSUME THAT IS A MEASURE OF SELF WORTH. CONCENTRATE ON SCHOOL, find a job you like, or just keep yourself and your mind busy so you can regain your self worth and confidence. And he probably broke up with you because he met a sleazy little slut that probably fucked him the first night they met. Nice on and consider yourself lucky to be rid of him.

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    • Hey, don't make assumptions. Would you say the same about a woman that chose to end a relationship with her boyfriend?

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      • If you were meaning me, I used words like "not all" and "some" and "majority". I didn't specify any in particular.

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  • "He didnt even think someone was hurt of what he did?"

    I would normally be the first to complain about grammar, but I've been on this site long enough to just be grateful your post is readable.

    First of all, your ex-bf doesn't owe a relationship to you. I don't know the details, but the bottom line is, if he wanted to terminate the relationship he had every right to no matter how you feel about it. You're not the center of the world. Other people don't have to please you at all costs. The act of dumping you and, hurting your feelings as a result, does not constitute wrongdoing.

    Second of all, it's a breakup. You'll get over it. Chill. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You should not base your self-esteem and identity around someone else - that's a sign of an unhealthy, codependent relationship. Chances are this isn't the first time you're going to be dumped and you should learn to live with it.

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    • I agree with you. OP sounds young and immature.

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    • I do hope you understand but I don't feel sorry if my grammar isn't good. I know English is a universal language, but then this is not our first language. We doesn't use English for our daily communication. But still thank you for taking so much patience reading this.

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  • the guy sounds like a jerk if he ha doughs he never should have made that promise I'm a guy but even I know what's its like to brake up with someone I had a girl I was in love with but for someone reason she decided I was no longed good enough for her a dumped me it hurt like hell but in time I was able to move on it was really hard but I lot of great friends and my family to help through it. your not alone in this you will feel better just give it time.

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  • This is hilarious. You did not "give" your body. Your body is still yours and it is yours to do with as you please. Anyone else who disagrees with that can go fuck themselves. Just chill the fuck out and move on and stop putting SO much value on sex. You'll feel much more liberated if you think of it as a mutual bonding experience and something to be shared, rather than something that one person has exclusive rights to forever that ISN'T YOU.

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  • Sorry that happened to you break ups suck

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  • You gave your body to him. That bond is meant to be permanent - this is one reason why many people (myself included) choose marry before sleeping with someone. Breaking up is unnatural in this instance. It will feel unnatural. I think you have been wronged. Unfortunately the only thing you can do is to try and heal. Follow the steps Rose has suggested. If you go to a church, tell them and enlist their support and guidance. Get as many people around you to help you heal, as you can.

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