I forgot what fun was

Lately, I've been home working and preparing myself for neurobiology and since I have no friends due to my social anxiety that is linked to trauma, I decided to stick with it for a while, but "a while" has lasted over a year.
What do you do for fun..?
Don't judge, please help me out with ideas.

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  • Have you been to therapy? I recently underwent Accelerated Resolution Therapy for my trauma and it has worked wonders. I am now able to enjoy myself. Some things I like to do are cook , try new bars and restaraunts, anything by the water, see live music, comedy. That reads like a dating profile but it's true lol.

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  • Working out is what I do for fun, and also learning about it for my degree. Don't you find neurobiology fun?

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  • And I thought I was the only one that felt this way.😰

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  • Climbing big hills is fun if you're me.

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  • anxiety can fuck off

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  • I had the same issue when I quit drugs. I had to redefine what I thought of as fun.

    It depends on what you're interested in. For me, it's being outside, discovering new places & doing adventurous semi-scary things.

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    • Did you feel off for a long time after you quit?

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      • A bit, it's complicated.

        It took me about a year to feel normal, but I was railing stimulants, not opiates like you, which is a different experience. The drugs I was doing don't have so much of a physical withdrawal, more of a mental withdrawal. They mess with your brain chemistry quite a bit, so when you stop, you dont feel normal feelings of happiness & joy, or anything really. I imagine it's very similar to depression...nothing made me happy. I just felt totally numb for a bit.

        Also, I was convinced that things weren't as fun or interesting as they were on drugs & that I could not deal with stress without drugs. None of that was true at all, it just took a while to adjust to living life not fucked up.

        Now I'd say life is way better than it was both when I was on drugs, and before I ever did them. I can have normal fun totally sober, but now I appreciate it more. I can enjoy smaller things that I totally missed out on when I was fucked up. Simple stuff like the sun or going swimming makes me extremely happy now.

        Wouldn't go back to drugs for a million dollars.

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  • I understand, medical studies are tough. I have friends still studying. I finished and got my fancy and easy economics degree, while they continue the rat race...
    When I partied, slacked off and searched for cool places to take pictures of my car, they studied for exams, had seminars, tests and did all manner of things.

    Still, don't burn yourself out my friend.

    Watch movies, play games, hang out with friends, start a new hobby... There are tons of things to do. The only requirement is free time.

    Personally, during the week, after work I like to relax with a bit of tv and a good movie.
    During the weekend I play computer games for a few hours (often GTA online with a friend, where we clown around) and detail my cars. If me and my girlfriend are up to it, we invite friends over for dinner. Good food, good drinks, good company and good times.

    But if you don't feel like watching movies, barbecuing, or making Mercedes wheels shine, you can always relax with a good book, go out for a walk with a buddy, enjoy nature and have a good beer at a beergarden, or build models.

    Recently I decided to take a whack at model ship building. It's a fun, constructive and mostly relaxing thing to do.
    I've finished 2 models, probably gonna finish a plane one (Concorde if possible) and not make any more models as I don't have room in my house for any more decoration stuff.

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  • *slight edit* what do u guys talk about, my bf is visiting next week and i feel boring (first time we do long distance, 4 years together)

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    • He cheats on you

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    • You could talk about politics, conspiracy theories, hobbies, history, religion, other cultures, your friends and family, your lifestyle, shit you think is interesting that you wonder if other people share in common, etc. You could just straight up ask him a bunch of crap about what he likes.
      Honestly though, you're probably just freezing up because of nerves. The conversation will most likely come about naturally if you let it. I mean, you could make a whole conversation about chocolate milk if the right two people are sitting in the room. Even silence can be a really good conversation. You'll be okay even if you don't feel like you will.

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    • I usually talk about the things I'm interested in, so I wouldn't know...

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  • > Read books, watch videos, movies, etc.
    > Go hiking or rock-climbing
    > Chatting with people online
    > Drawing, writing, working on personal projects
    > Studying cool things

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    • i do but ima be visiting my bf next week and i feel boring (first time we do long distance, 4 years together)

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  • I used to really love doing karaoke, but I haven't done it since I left Las Vegas.

    Lately I've been into listening to books on Audible, and coloring in coloring books.

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  • Drinking is an effective and efficient way to have fun and you can apply the experience to your studies. Also you don't have to leave the house or interact with people.

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    • :o

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      • Be careful with self medicating. I self medicated until finally I was shooting heroine. What makes it so easy to get addicted is when you find the right drug all of your mental illnesses go away while you are on that drug. Makes it really hard to go without the 'cure'.

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  • Don’t be afraid to reach out. We all need buddies and help. On the darkest day there’s always light

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