See a therapist, because your brain is in panic mode and you need someone who can talk you out of it.
You lost weight for the wrong reasons. You changed for your abusive boyfriend. He destroyed your confidence and your self image; now you're spiraling into a cycle of self-destruction.
I wouldn’t say he was abusive, he just sometimes made off hand comments about it. It was just that him making fun of me made me realise I needed to start working out.
I've been there. I didn't listen to anyone either, so I understand your reluctance. I would also read list like the one I showed you in the link and dismiss it because he hasn't done EVERYTHING LITTLE THING on it; but it took me a long time to realize that he didn't have to do everything on that list to mess me up.
Please think about it. You were happy with yourself before him, why are you so unhappy now? You became what he said you SHOULD be, and you're so unhappy, why? Why couldn't he accept you for who you were back then? Why did he even make those comments in the first place when he knew what you look like before dating you? A man who loves you wouldn't critize you like that, especially if you were already healthy to begin with.
I'm not going to argue, because you still have feelings for him; but please think about it.
I feel worse about my body now I’m healthier
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See a therapist, because your brain is in panic mode and you need someone who can talk you out of it.
You lost weight for the wrong reasons. You changed for your abusive boyfriend. He destroyed your confidence and your self image; now you're spiraling into a cycle of self-destruction.
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I wouldn’t say he was abusive, he just sometimes made off hand comments about it. It was just that him making fun of me made me realise I needed to start working out.
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I've been there. I didn't listen to anyone either, so I understand your reluctance. I would also read list like the one I showed you in the link and dismiss it because he hasn't done EVERYTHING LITTLE THING on it; but it took me a long time to realize that he didn't have to do everything on that list to mess me up.
Please think about it. You were happy with yourself before him, why are you so unhappy now? You became what he said you SHOULD be, and you're so unhappy, why? Why couldn't he accept you for who you were back then? Why did he even make those comments in the first place when he knew what you look like before dating you? A man who loves you wouldn't critize you like that, especially if you were already healthy to begin with.
I'm not going to argue, because you still have feelings for him; but please think about it.