I feel sorry for her

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In my head this is weird: I dislike my mum so much that I'm starting to feel sorry for her. It's as if she has distanced herself so much from me that I view her as a woman who cannot communicate with her kids. She never listens to any of me or my sisters and it has gone to a point where she might drive us all away, and I feel frightened for her because I know I wouldn't like to grown old on my own and my children don't like me.

Is this normal or am I just able to easily put myself in people's shoes??

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  • fuckallyalls
    14 years ago

    oh, ur mom sounds like a bitch.

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  • scrount
    9 years ago

    Talk to her. Tell her how you feel.

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  • BecksDominos
    9 years ago

    I feel exactly the same

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Make her a warm cup of coffee, and sit and talk to her about it, no harsh words, you need to tell her slowly that she's letting you down, do you know if her childhood was bad?

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  • djG22
    14 years ago

    if u dislike her so much shes probably picked up on that and maybe its upset her too...

    its good u turned the hate into empathy.. but she is ur mother.. if you're frightened for her wellbeing, try to get her some help. if shes pushing people away - shes probably dealing with issues and perhaps she doesnt want to put them onto her kids...?

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  • Adden
    14 years ago

    I think it is horriable that you even 'reconize' the fact that you don't even have a relationship with your mother.

    If you take a step back and look at it, no, it's not normal. Parent's are supposed to love their children, accept them for who they are, even if they might not live to their expectations. I just think this is really sad...

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Maturity. You've moved beyond disappointment & hurt to some level of compassion for your mom, or awareness that she has a big problem that is having consequences (alienating her children).

    At least you know its her, not you. Where you go with that depends. But its good you are not blaming or beating up yourself for her problem.

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  • cricket
    14 years ago

    Normal. I feel the same way about anybody I can't get along with/don't like, and it's sometimes sort of heartbreaking.

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