I feel so different from everyone else

I think peope who are like you have a better future ;) by the way I'm like you ;)

I have never been to a club and I would not want to. I totally understand where you are coming from though. There are just not too many people out there that enjoy the same things as me and its hard because I have no friends and I really want friends that i can do things with. But everyone here only likes partying and drinking and stuff that just is not for me.The only people that dont do those things are religious and that is not for me either.

Why do you need to be like them? You already are somebody - you. Of course that's normal. Do what you enjoy, not what others enjoy. Then maybe you will find people who have the same kind of interests and who aren't bent on getting you to go clubbing every night.

Sounds like you are very similar to myself. I Went to college, didn't drink, I did date but at my leisure, was never a partier. I loved to sit alone and write or draw what I saw going on in the world, talk quietly with friends, help them with their issues etc. Acting like an ass was never for me. As for Coach bags etc - I rolled my eyes hearing my neighbors gabbing abotu their latest coach bags the other day.

So your motivations aren't acting like a doofus and owning the next arbitrary fashion accessory that walks off the runway. Your interests and priorities are different, you're more moved by quality of life and you see beauty and interest that other people have to drink to discover. Go you. Screw them. Find other kindred spirits, go places and travel and see the natural world around you and let the fads pass you by.

^^Thanks for the replies! In high school someone snatched my paper from me and on it I had been "writing to" a boy I liked but never talked to (and definately had NO intention of giving him the letter. It said things like "you have such a kind face" and other things I wish I could say to him but didn't. That made everyone not want to be my friend b/c I was a "stalker". Also in high school, I hadn't heard from my friend for awhile and didn't know where she was, so I stared out a window and thought I was alone and said out loud "I really miss you. I think about you all the time and I hope your alright..." someone heard me and bam I'm a weirdo again. I don't realize it when I do things like this that I guess other people don't do but your right it's me I guess.

Be yourself. There is no one in the world like you and no one in the world like me. Everyone is unique. Be contented that you are you and no one else. Hey your special and so am I along with everyone else even though some people may not see it in themselves.

you're just mature for your age it seems.

It's totally normal. I never liked bars and loud parties and clubs. Never. I liked to drink, I liked to party, but only with a few people at a time. I've never been one for big crowds of stupid, drunk people vomiting on the coat pile or in someone shoes.... NOT fun to me. So yes, it's normal. And if you're worried about fitting in, then set up a small party at your own place, and invite a few of those friends and just chill and whatnot at home. That way, you can bond with them and still not have to go too far out of your comfort zone.

i am exactly like u. u/we dont conform. conformity sux! ur an individual. feel some pride in da fact that u dont follow da crowd. so awesome!

Yes I feel understood finally lol. You guys are right. I just turned 20 and made a promise to myself to be authentic. I feel like there is a cage around me that separates me from everyone else and from being a part of reality, not just witnessing it. Still, I would rathar be true to who I am, not some counterfeit self. I really appreciate the replies!

I'd like to be your friend! ur like me, i do things like that. i think u sound really sweet. I always feel that i think differently from other ppl. i have friends and go out but a lot of the time i feel really disconnected from them and like im on a completely different wave length. but i think its good to be different and not like the masses. it just means you are probably more thoughtful and introspective than others but thats a good thing. i have tried to fit in the the crowd and just go with it but i feel like im betraying a part of myself and start to lose myself bcos i dont agree with a lot of the things they do or say and im just pretending half the time. so i think its better to just try to be yourself and dont worry about others. i know sometimes its hard bcos then u feel isolated but there r others like u even on this site, we r just in the minority, especially in high school ppl just act like morons and they r probably just tryin to fit in too so they wont get picked on. hang in there, also recently iv started making friends online who i really got along with and who i wouldnt normally get to meet so maybe give that a try but be safe too. good luck girlie

You sound great. My son has finally found a girlfriend that's like you. Like yourself and be glad you're not like the pack.

Just be yourself! :)

i'll bet there are plenty of other people in your school that are like you, you just haven't found them yet. you are normal

I do enjoy clubbing and things like that, but I do understand what you mean by alienated as I feel that way as well. I guess different people feel different types of isolation...or maybe some just don't really feel isolated at all. But I sure do!

I thought if I were like them it would be easier to make friends. Some things I do in general I used to get made fun of and considered really weird...I figure if I change myself entirely then they'll like me. It's hard though...