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I'm 18 and gave my boy friend my virginity 2 months ago.
I have not once felt pleasure from sex.
when I lost my virginity it hurt very badly and it was hard to get it in. I bled for a long time after. Even now if we go a while with out having sex it hurts. I'm too tight? (He loves it though haha)
My clitoris has yet to show it's self.
my boyfriend has tried so hard to find my g spot. Its no where to be found.
am I sexually doomed?
Augh... don't they teach sex ed anymore?
Your clit doesn't "show itself", it's right above the hole to your vagina, around your urethra area, where you pee. Look up a diagram, it's there, but it's not insanely obvious. Feel around until you hit a sensitive spot, it's not on the inside, it is on the outside.
Now for your g-spot, get a vibrator and find it yourself. You have to guide yourself and figure out what pleases you. Explore, he can help you. But if you don't know what you like then it's not like he'll figure it out for you. Young guys generally don't have that kind of experience.
And for the hurting, use lubricant and masturbate with a vibrator frequently or have sex frequently with lubricant. Please also be sure to use birth control, and with condoms use lubricant as well and if you ever start to get dry have him pull out and apply more lubricant. He shouldn't have a problem with it, a gentleman wants to please.his woman too. Don't let condoms get dry either.
"My clitoris has yet to show it's self."
If you can't actually see it with a mirror, it's possible you're too young to be having sex.
Now as for finding your "G" spot, go to an adult store (this will weed out the minors of course) and get a video on how to pleasure women.
Instead of trying to hunt around inside your vaginal canal for some spot to poke at, have him learn about stroking and foreplay.
I mean sure he likes penetrating you, but if it's hurting you and only he's getting any fun out of it... what are you to him? He needs to actually learn about how to pleasure you vs just poking inside you until he comes.
You don't have a clitoris? The clitoris is the source of female pleasure (yes it's also responsible for internal orgasms) I suggest you get a diagram and a mirror and look for it. If you don't find it look for your medical records. I know some people are born with genital problems, they normally get it corrected during infancy but it normally leaves them with less sensing tissue down there making it harder or impossible to orgasm.