I feel like once i'm in a relationship i'll be happy

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I know I'm wrong.. I know that being happy isnt a permanent state I often attain states of bliss and peace in life through meditation and gratitude. But I still long for a partner to be touched and told I'm loved everything else in my life is so wonderful that perhaps it would simply be unfair to also have a beautiful relationship. I love my friends dearly and my family life is full of love. I take care of my body and my mind as best I can I'm adventurous and intelligent from what I can tell not tryna brag here. But I still feel that what I really want is those sweet moments in a lover's arms where nothing matters but the touch of a partner. It is something I've never experienced with any real depth I've had casual relationships but I want the real thing. Why do I believe once I get that I'll be totally fulfilled when I know logically that isn't true. Or will I actually be totally fulfilled if only for a year or so before life hits me with its undoubtedly approaching tragedy?

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Believing that you need a relationship in order to be happy is a very common belief system, but it's quite unhealthy in that you could very well find yourself holding back from experiencing life to the fullest, because you're waiting for this fantasy person to show up, and this person may, or may not ever show up at all. I think I understand what you're expressing, but don't let your hopes for a partner hold you back, and always remember that you don't need another person to complete you. You are complete, and whole just as you are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      This is what I know to be true logically I find it hard to genuinely FEEL this way.. any tips?

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        I know, it's easier said than done.

        I'm gonna make a suggestion off the top of my head. Make a list of cool things you'd like to do that would very likely give you joy. Do some research on what you need to know, or do in order to take part in the interesting, and possibly fun activities of which you made the list. Find some cool activities from your list that are relatively easy to accomplish, and give it a go! 🤠👍🏻

        I think the more often you try out solo activities for fun, and enjoy yourself the more you will actually come to believe that you are enough, and you are a complete, and whole person despite the fact that you are currently single.

        What you think?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          I will literally do this right now! Thank you Rose. This is a great practical idea to remind myself that I'm happy solo

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            You're very welcome.

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    Then don't wait, go for it and live the dream bigshot.

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