I think what you're really looking for is commitment. The whole "questioning whether he's really in it for me or the sex" thing goes out the window when a real commitment is put on the table. When there's a commitment and you know beforehand that the person is in it for the long haul, all those doubts and fears go away. Try being celibate for a while, and when you find the right one, propose to her. Then after marriage, you guys could have sex and still know when you wake up you have the rest of your lives to make love to each other blissfully and happily.
Of course, if any of the above bothers you greatly, then I think you should pull up a mirror and stop lying to yourself and face the fact that you are only in it for the sex.
Lol, that does bother me because I do want sex but I'm not lieing about anything. Only reason I think it's a problem is because I've actually made girls feel bad by not initiating sex much. There's a mental hickup there, I just never really feel free to to just go for it..m even after we've had sex before. It just seems like I'd be fulfilling a steriotype but it's all in my head.
I feel like having sex with a girl makes her doubt everything before
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I think what you're really looking for is commitment. The whole "questioning whether he's really in it for me or the sex" thing goes out the window when a real commitment is put on the table. When there's a commitment and you know beforehand that the person is in it for the long haul, all those doubts and fears go away. Try being celibate for a while, and when you find the right one, propose to her. Then after marriage, you guys could have sex and still know when you wake up you have the rest of your lives to make love to each other blissfully and happily.
Of course, if any of the above bothers you greatly, then I think you should pull up a mirror and stop lying to yourself and face the fact that you are only in it for the sex.
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Lol, that does bother me because I do want sex but I'm not lieing about anything. Only reason I think it's a problem is because I've actually made girls feel bad by not initiating sex much. There's a mental hickup there, I just never really feel free to to just go for it..m even after we've had sex before. It just seems like I'd be fulfilling a steriotype but it's all in my head.