Feeling sorry for myself? People feel sorry for themselves when they feel like life has given them a bad hand of cards. I'm very privileged. This is guilt, not self pity.
Perhaps a bit different. I'm not quite sure, but it seems if someone feels guilty it's because they feel bad about themselves, which is a form of pity.
You get caught in the rain without an umbrella and you think: "Why me?" This is self pity. It's a misfortune that was out of your control.
You steal someone's umbrella on your route and and think: "This wasn't fair to take." This is guilt. The misfortune of another person was caused by your intention.
The distinction matters because self pity is unproductive; it's not something you can change. While guilt is something you have control over. For example, I can choose to be kind without asking/hoping for anything in return.
I feel like a terrible person sometimes
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Feeling sorry for myself? People feel sorry for themselves when they feel like life has given them a bad hand of cards. I'm very privileged. This is guilt, not self pity.
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Guilt is similar to self pity.
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Perhaps a bit different. I'm not quite sure, but it seems if someone feels guilty it's because they feel bad about themselves, which is a form of pity.
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You get caught in the rain without an umbrella and you think: "Why me?" This is self pity. It's a misfortune that was out of your control.
You steal someone's umbrella on your route and and think: "This wasn't fair to take." This is guilt. The misfortune of another person was caused by your intention.
The distinction matters because self pity is unproductive; it's not something you can change. While guilt is something you have control over. For example, I can choose to be kind without asking/hoping for anything in return.
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makes sense
In short: Guilt is feeling like you've done something bad. Self pity is feeling like something bad has happened to you.