I feel like a terrible person sometimes

I'm selfish. I lie to people. I choose my friends depending on if they make me happy and not the other way around. I'm only nice when it makes me feel good about myself

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  • Whats the point in feeling sorry for yourself? I'm selfish all the time but I do it because I don't care.

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    • Feeling sorry for myself? People feel sorry for themselves when they feel like life has given them a bad hand of cards. I'm very privileged. This is guilt, not self pity.

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      • Guilt is similar to self pity.

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        • Perhaps a bit different. I'm not quite sure, but it seems if someone feels guilty it's because they feel bad about themselves, which is a form of pity.

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          • You get caught in the rain without an umbrella and you think: "Why me?" This is self pity. It's a misfortune that was out of your control.

            You steal someone's umbrella on your route and and think: "This wasn't fair to take." This is guilt. The misfortune of another person was caused by your intention.

            The distinction matters because self pity is unproductive; it's not something you can change. While guilt is something you have control over. For example, I can choose to be kind without asking/hoping for anything in return.

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            • makes sense

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          • In short: Guilt is feeling like you've done something bad. Self pity is feeling like something bad has happened to you.

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  • Alichael

    Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone has faults and lies sometimes. And most people think of themselves, look out for number 1. It doesn't automatically make you selfish, unless you're really throwing people under the bus that care about you just to get your way. And everyone chooses the friends that make them happy, that's why people make friends. And everyone's nice because it makes themselves feel better. They feel better because they made someone else feel better, that's kindness. You're not a terrible person, not based on anything you've mentioned.

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  • Mark92

    I feel that too sometimes, mostly when I do something I regret. but life goes on...

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  • Dustyair

    Yes you are a fuck stick, there, feel better now?

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  • Paigiepoo

    Water levels out, when your hungry for compassion , re read your post

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  • McBean

    The way you describe your behavior makes you sound more like a loser. Being a loser is the key to a shallow life. But hey, Cheetos on the sofa in your mother's basement await you. You can be the commander of your TV remote.

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  • Alichael

    You are a terrible person!! Lol, Just joking, ha! 😂😂😂 you're ok. Read my other comment, that's my serious one.

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    • Fetiza000

      You're a terrible person for using that emoji.

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      • Alichael

        Haha 😂😂 haha, very funny

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        • Fetiza000

          Seriously. Stop.

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          • Alichael

            Are you the op for this post?

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          • Alichael

            Fine. I was just having a sense of humor. I won't reply to you anymore, but I'm gonna keep my humor with the ones who like it and find me funny.

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  • itachi_uchiha

    I don't think anybody can be "GANDHI" these days so everybody lie

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  • RoseIsabella

    What do you lie about?

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    • When some people want to be my friend and hang out I tell them I'm busy but I actually preserve my time for the people I actually like.

      When a not so good looking girl at a party asks me if I want to kiss I tell her I do but I'm not comfortable kissing people I don't know

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      • Emokate

        Saying you're busy doesn't have to mean you have great plans. It just means you doing other things at the moment. It could mean eating cheetos on the couch and it isn't anyones business.

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      • TNXK

        LOL don't feel bad for not wanting to kiss someone who wants to be kissed by you! your not some love toy, you do not owe anyone any kisses.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Little white lies. I don't think those are terrible lies.

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        • Alichael

          For some reason, your comment made me think of that old Fleetwood Mac song Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Tell me, tell me lies.

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        • These lies make me feel like shit

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          • Alichael

            You should feel like shit!😠 You're so cruel!
            Just kidding again 😂😂 haha lol. Everyone tells white lies. You're being very polite to people compared to how many people are. It's perfectly ok to say no to someone you don't want to kiss, and you're not even doing that. And you do have the right to say you're busy even if all you're wanting to do is lie down and watch movies, eat, and chill on your own. I do that. I'll lay in bed, stuff myself, watch a DVD or Netflix, and eventually take a nap. Don't care what time of day it is on my days off. I stay home and answer to nobody, unless it's an emergency with someone I care about, because I haven't lost my heart. It definitely looks like you haven't. If you lost your heart, you'd be doing things 10 times meaner than what you're doing and then you wouldn't be posting about being guilty about it because you just wouldn't care. You're feeling guilty about things that you shouldn't be feeling guilty about, because you've done nothing wrong.

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            • StrangerX

              Omg you’re so funny😂😂 you make comments like “you’re a terrible person” and “you should feel like shit” and then say you’re just kidding. I just can’t😂

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          • RoseIsabella

            Well, I think you are fine. I think you judge yourself way too harshly. Never feel bad about saying no to someone for whatever reason!

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      • Alichael

        You're not unkind person at all. Many people will not say that they do want to kiss someone they're not attracted to, and doing that doesn't even make them mean. Everyone has a right to say no to kissing someone they're not attracted to, that does not make them mean. And a lot of people will tell a friend they're busy sometimes when they don't feel like it. You're being very cordial compared to how some people are.

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