I feel isolated from my friends

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i'm in college at the moment and i live with two girls who are on my course.the girls who i live with lived together last year. because of this they seem to get on better together than they do with me. i don't know if it's in my head but at times i do wonder that if i'm not in the room are they talking about me...why am i soo paranoid about the only close friends i have??
i know that they have more things in common with each other than i do with them....they both smoke, both have boyfriends...i just feel quite distant from them. for eg we are all in the same class yet they tend to discuss study problems between themselves while i rarely get involved or asked. if the 3 of us were having a conversation i would occasionally be ignored and the conversation is only in the direction or between the other two. when this happens i feel invisible and left out. .i'm losing the confidence to speak to them as i feel i'm not wanted.
saying all of that when i'm left with one of them everythings fine and i don't feel as invisble but as soon as the other comes along i'm back to being invisible....does anyone else feel the same way or as paranoia got the better of me and left me thinking this way???!!!

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  • brockleygirl
    13 years ago

    this has been posted 2 years ago and tings really have not got any better. i'm feeling more and more isolated as the days go by. i feel like i'm only here to fill the room and only called upon when they want something and not that they actually want to have a conversation with me. i mean we are susposed to friends. anything new that happens i'm always the last to know. i feel like i can't share anything with them cos the way i see it is if they are not prepared to share and talk to me, why should i confide in them. we're not fighting and they don't know i feel this way as i keep alot of things to myself. anyway if i was to say something both of them would stick together and i'd be left feeling more isolated. how i managed to live in this enviroment 5 days a week without cracking up is beyond me. i'm ever so tempted to move out...maybe others might value me for who i am.

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  • JadedImage
    13 years ago

    I fele the same way sometimes too. Ever since I got married and have been in college I don't really talk to any of my old friends, and when I see them, things have changed so I have nothing in common with them any more, which is sad. It's sad because I don't really have a best friend anymore. I love my husband to death, don't get me wrong, but sometimes you need another girl to talk to, and it so hard to find REAL friends in your mid 20's. Lots of acquaintances, but nothing real or permanent.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    omg samw. i was bffs with this gurl fir like a year and then a new girl comes along and totally steals her. my heart breaks evry time i see pics of them or their posts bout each other o facebook

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  • pinkfingers
    14 years ago

    one thing that i realized is that you have to speak with confidence and clearly in the group. try to talk with them more and find some similarities between you guys. or maybe you should find other friends who suit you better.

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  • whitewitchblackcurse
    15 years ago

    It sounds like maybe they do like each other better than either of them likes you and that's ok. Maybe you need to be more involved or decide if the relationship. They probably don't mean any harm by it, just certain ppl are going to get better along with each other than others. They probably don't even realize that you feel left out. Why not try speaking to them as a group about how you feel.

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