I feel emotionless towards other's emotions. what's the problem?

you sound introverted and depressed. that's why you lack emotion and feel lonely. i honestly would suggest telling your doctor about this so you can get something to help you out

You are feeling guilt now. And remote, and you don't really want to connect to all the pain of of her dying.

Sounds like you are an introvert, and perhaps yes %%u2018lacking empathy%%u2019, but you do have feelings (as you feel horrible and disconnected). Isn%%u2019t your %%u2018lack of feelings%%u2019 more accurately described as %%u2018not feeling the way you believe you should feel%%u2019? For instance; when you %%u2018felt nothing%%u2019 about your grandmother%%u2019s cancer didn%%u2019t you really feel like you had no emotional connection to your grandmother and you felt no more or less than you would over hearing about any stranger having cancer?

First establish if you really have no empathy at all; for instance; would you feel bad if you ran over a kitten with your car? You very likely have empathy an feelings and just need to feel a connection to someone to have empathy for them (it doesn%%u2019t sound like you and your parents are very close and therefore your apparent lack of empathy doesn%%u2019t sound to surprising to me).

Next decide if you want to have it. There are advantages to being a heartless bastard and there are (perhaps more) advantages to having empathy. I think the smoother course of action is to develop your empathy; but that is really up to you.

If you chose to develop your empathy one course of action might be to volunteer at your local soup kitchen or some other similar interaction with people that are in some way disadvantaged to yourself. Helping others in need will make you feel good about yourself and there for help you develop a vested interest in the feelings of others. You can also echo back others emotions and ask questions. %%u201COh Grandma has cancer? How does that make you feel?%%u201D

The path of the un-empathetic is hard, lonely and not very rewarding unless you become the CEO of a company.

I don't think all people are capable of all emotions. Definately the vast majority, but not every last being on earth. I personally am incapable of experiencing jealousy. I only know it exists from what I witness from others. Check out my post called "incapable of feeling jealous" and tell me, IIN?

My grandma died several years ago, and I remember having feelings similar to yours. Hell, if I want to be totally honest, I remember feeling like the upside was that I wouldn't have to visit her anymore. It's not that I hated her, I just was never emotionally attached to her at all. I mostly felt bad for my dad, but the woman was 85 years old for Christ's sake. I'm sure it's hard for you to not be able to be more supportive of what your parents are going through, but you can't force yourself to have feelings that aren't there, and the fact that you don't have them isn't your fault. I hate it when my mom tries to make me feel guilty for not being more affected by certain things, as if I'm supposed to tailor fit my emotional responses according to social pressure. Bullshit. I feel the way I feel, and I'm sure there's a good reason for it, even though it might not be a simple one or an obvious one. The same goes for you. I think the best you can do is take a good honest look at your emotions (or lack there of) and decide whether you're happy with yourself based on what YOU think, not people who have never walked in your shoes.

I think you are realizing you lack empathy. You're parents love you. And even if you don't want to call them, just leave a message or something saying hi. And you do have feelings, you feel horrible, you feel bad because you don't feel what you think you should feel.
You're extremely shy, maybe you need to be around people more. And maybe you're depressed. but remember, you're not the only one.
Do you think you could talk to your parents about this or a sibling?
But talk to someone.
Also, don't forget, like I said before, you are feeling something, so you're not a lost cause.