I feel as though i am not my true self

um drugs are bad,and drinking not so good for you,or your record if you caught driving drunk.
so what's the problem??? are you fiening for drugs or something?? i grew out of that sluggish,callow lifestyle years ago,and i'm only 21.

-dirt dobbler

Maybe you feel out of your boundaries because you know longer have that alcohol nor drugs. I bet that's a fact. Whether you truly stopped or cut down it's to a lesser amount that you are unused to.

OK WHOA first of all how old are you and im pretty sure incest is illegal.. and im not sure how long youve been having oral sex with your sister... but i would STOP IMMEDIATELY and find a girlfriend to do something like that with... but to answer your question.. its like a finger print.. no two women are going to taste the same.. it all has to do with what you like. and what they have eaten andthings like that..

A couple of days? Pffffft. Get back to me when it's been going on for a decade or more.

I feel the same and i smoke weed and drink and have a controlling obsessive girlfriend who wont let me alone.i have a deadend job but on the other hand i am in very good shape and very good looking but i feel the same i get home and i am in a comatose,I think you need to just take the iniative to try something new that will make u happy thats what i am gonna do,Dont worry so much there is alot of us out here like you and a counselor will throw pills and fuk ure head up dont listen to these other morons they probbably are more fucked up then u but hide it better

It's normal to have a few "off" days. Totally normal. Especially if you are, say, an adolescent.

Of course, if it's a deeper problem and it gets worse and is interfering with your life significantly or otherwise causing a problem, you might need to consult with someone who could help you besides the internet.

I'm not sure what you mean by "casual" drug/alcohol use, but you obviously thought enough about it to mention it in your question.

Feeling out of sorts for a few days doesn't seem like much to worry about, but it sounds like this sort of feeling is unfamiliar and/or uncomfortable to you. As a person who once had a very serious drug problem, I would recognize these feelings as being the prelude to a relapse, but not knowing a great about you, it's hard to know where this is heading.

If I had to guess, given the clues you've offered here, I'd suggest that you tend to be a passive person who does not confront problems directly. Hence, the drugs/alcohol and the "controlling girlfriend."

The clearest, quickest way to find yourself is to be honest in word and deed. Easy to say; very tough to do. You may need a little time to really get to know your true feelings, particularly if you've invested a lot of energy in repressing them for a prolonged time.

I hope this will at least give you something to think about -- good luck to you.