I feel a constant need to brag and appear better than others?

am really trying to better myself and become more humble. I am a sophomore in college. I have a long history of being bullied in highschool which has caused me to have insecurity issues. I really did not have any real friends until my senior year. I also have auditory processing Disorder and honestly probably ADHD as well. This means that socializing, especially in groups, is just that much harder for me. I have been a lot more confident in myself to where I do put self out there in terms of talking to new people but I am still overall really socially awkward.

Over the past 2 years I would say now I have become increasingly more braggy. I feel the need to come across as this smart and person who has friends. I recently joined a fraternity, where the people are all generally nice guys but I really havent made any real friends. Once again I feel like an outsider. In my head though I think of ways I can come across as smarter and better than them in ways. I even do this with my close friends. Also on social media. I have become increasingly obsessive with how many followers and likes I have.

One other thing I do and am ashamed of that I do is that I think about things to brag about before I go hangout with people. It might be a suddal brag about my GPA or something like that. Is this normal and how Do I fix it?

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  • ellnell

    You sound exactly like a guy with ADHD I dated.
    Big tip : Stop doing this.
    It screams insecurity and is a huge turnoff.
    Build genuine confidence instead.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Low self esteem ?

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  • raisinbran

    Hashtags. You need to start a personal virtue signalling campaign, get on twitter and start expressing your support for fake causes. You’ll come across as a hero without having to do anything.

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  • Somenormie

    You are abnormal.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Dude, you need to chill out, and relax. Just do your best, but don't outright brag, or put other people down to try to raise yourself up, because that is straight up douchebaggery, and not cool. Don't be a douchebag, douchebags are lame, man.

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  • SwickDinging

    What's suddal?

    It's ok, it happens because you have low self-esteem and care so much about what others think. Nobody wants to admit to it but it's actually very common. You just have to practice being more confident, and reminding yourself that it doesn't matter what other people think. Your opinion of yourself is what matters.

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