I fabricate negative scenarios in my head, then get sad

Sometimes when I'm upset, i start creating a scene in my mind.
Sometimes the scenes are unrelated to what i'm upset about initially, but any people involved are always included in this scene.

I only think up these things when I'm alone, such as laying in bed.

For example, my boyfriend goes back on his promise about something I'd been looking forward to. I'll make up a scene where we argue, vivid imagery, dialogue and everything and it ends up making me even sadder, to the point of tears.

It's like I'm making up things to reinforce my feelings, to justify them. Of course, I never take anything that happens in my head seriously. Only in the moment while I'm visualizing, it's like i think it's real and actually get emotional

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  • mauzi

    "I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened."

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  • Boojum

    I think most people occasionally get caught in the cycle of imagining worst-case scenarios, this making them a little depressed, this leading to thinking even more negatively, and so on.

    If you think it's bad now, wait until you have a kid. When you're solely responsible for the well-being of a tiny idiot who seems determined to do really stupid shit, it's natural to spend your whole day looking at the world as nothing but a bunch of life-threatening hazards, and you can easily slip into imagining all sorts of horrible things that might happen in your pre-sleep bed time.

    It's called catastrophising, it's very common, it's not helpful in any way, and you should try to get out of the habit. Some ideas on how to do that here:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-confident-be-confident/201101/give-worry-recognizing-it-bad-habit

    https://www.businessinsider.sg/what-catastrophising-means-and-how-to-stop-it-2018-3/

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  • leggs91200

    I think a lot of people do that.
    Sometimes the scenario has no basis on reality, not based on something that even happened, or is even possible in the real world.

    I get it the worst when depressed about going to work. I told a co-worker about it and he said, "Kind of feeling like, good bye, world".

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  • Jimbo24

    Bitches be crazy? Whatever it is, I hope you have enough perspective and maturity to realize it's all in your head and not take out these made-up scenarios on your guy.

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  • Thegirlwithnolife3

    This is pretty normal. At the end of the day, humans will be humans and a lot of us brace ourselves for the worst, in case of it actually happening.

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  • Ichabuskene

    Setting the bar low- expecting the worst- so the reality hopefully won't be so bad.

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