I dont think i want kids

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i am 29 and my brain just stops at the idea of having kids. i never really wanted any. all my females freinds have kids, hence that i dont really have any femalke friends anymore.
i dont give a rats behind about what your kid did or what he ate, or what she said.
people cant believe how i have no interest. i dont want to mess my body up and i dont want the complete stress of being someones dependant.
a guy once inadvertanly told me once its kinda a wastse of good gentenics. i am tall, attractive (i dont think so but people tell me), and im smart.
everyone has a seed except me.
i kinda feel alone in this cuz im on of the only ones left. have nothing in common with my females friends my age. i dont hang with younger kids because im not into getting plastered and spending money on it.

i also think its selfish to have a kid this day in age with how the world is going. why would i want my seed to inherit all the lessened opprotunities?

my girl friends say" one day you will" i really dsont think so. im open to change but i doubt im changing on this. it just sux i dont have anymore girl time with my ladies :( they're stupid offspring took it all away!

sometimes i just want to say: your kid is not special, its doing things that a normal kid of that age does things. and you kid isnt as cute as you think. turn it off.

is this normal thinking for a woman nearing 30?

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    It's perfectly normal. You don't have to reproduce if you don't want to. Sadly, this world could use more people like you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    i wish i cud consieve! (sp?) but its not for all of us... my fiance has 2kids one has passed away though... i wish i cud have his child so badly but guess god is against it for some reason

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  • spoon4d
    12 years ago

    if you have brothers or sisters then i guess its okey, but if u don't have atleast 1 kid.
    Otherwise you'll your family will become extinct.

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  • a215
    13 years ago

    i know. we were all once kids. and im not special.

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  • ipeeintheshower
    13 years ago

    well it is ok that you don't want to have kids but remember you were once a kid too sooooooo. I guess your not special?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    plenty of people dont have children, you are not alone. maybe in yr circle of friends you are thats all. you do what you want to do

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  • a215
    13 years ago

    agreed. having kids is a very big deal. it takes careful thinking and preparation. most people dont treat it like a big deal but i think its the biggest, bringing someone into the world.

    i think most women do it because they can. "im a woman and this is part of being a woman." i think they get caught of as if its an involuntary act but it is in fact extremly voluntary.

    your not less of a woman if you dont choose this path.

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  • hackins
    13 years ago

    I'm in exact same situation. I really hate when those people say things like "You will have baby in future" "You will regret later" etc. That just really annoy me.

    I personally believe having kids is a selfish behaviour no doubt. Although we can't deny some of parents are very loving and responsible, but a lot of parents just follow the stream and wish kids will make them less lonely when they getting older despite how kids has been brought up. To me, having kids is something that consider very SERIOUS, parents need to be assure they will offer everything best to kids.

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  • a215
    13 years ago

    lol true that!

    its nice to know im not alone in feeling this way. i just kind of feel overwelmed now adays. just seems like everyone around me is knocked up with their 1st or 2nd kid. and people are like "ok when its your turn?".

    i dont think so.

    this girl once told me my feelings were selfish. yes, a pregnant girl smoking a cigarette and im selfish for not wanting to reproduce. true story.

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  • twistedmama81
    13 years ago

    Giving birth is the easy part ;)

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  • iamthewalrus0522
    13 years ago

    I don't want kids either. I am absolutely terrified of giving birth.

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  • twistedmama81
    13 years ago

    ^^ Well said, and I totally agree. Kids are not for everyone, and not having kids doesn't make you any less of a woman! If anything, it just shows you know what you want in life. And if someday you change your mind, then you can explore your options then :)

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Yeah, it's normal. Everybody has their reasons why they either want kids or don't want kids. At the end of the day, it's your decision. If you don't want a child, that's fine. You have your reasons, and people should respect that.

    I told my mom once that I wasn't sure if I will have babies in my future. I'm still pretty young though.

    Honestly, I think you're facing this very well. I mean, it's something that you're thinking about thoroughly, and with your eyes wide open. You're thinking through all the possibilities of what could be, and how your life will be changed around, and the responsibility that comes with mothering. You don't want to go into something with your eyes closed. You're looking at it from every angle. Applause to you for realizing how serious it is to have a child.

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