I dont really have friends

You're lucky to have friends to go out with.

You're lucky to have a relationship.

I have had neither for years.

You are sounding a bit resentful. But your previous batch of friends were inconsiderate of you and shared little in common though they obviously valued what you had to offer them.

I think your problem may be that it takes longer to meet and cultivate friendships at certain levels. Being part of a party gang is easy. Having friends with shared values and common interests way beyond that gets more difficult.

I guess you have to fish where the fish are: try to meet people who are doing what you are doing etc., reach out, take risks, join clubs, plus don't give up - keep trying. That will work.

I don't know what having a boyfriend has to do with anything - though often couples share friends as couples.

to be truthful no one really has friends
in know i sound kind of cynical but in your case you can either be the nice person or the idiot.

and as the two sayings go:

god takes care of drunks and fools

and

the nice person come out last

I think that's quite a privildged position to be in! You're obviously someone who is highly valued as a good listener. I don't think you are overreacting to expect that others should reciprocate your feelings of needing to be heard! Without being presumtuous, it sounds as if you may be someone who has difficuly expressing their needs to their friends,and you may need to work on your confidence to demand that you receive the care that you so generously give to your friends.

I know what you're talking about too! I am also the type of person people come to for advice or to vent about something. But for some reason or another, I haven't met decent enough people to include me in what they're doing or invite me to do things with them. There are a couple people i've come across that have asked me to join them and etc. But what i really want is a close group of maybe 3-4 good friends. Sometimes i think that people my age that are in college..they just care about where the next party is and who is popular...I like to do other things besides drink and party...I think me and you are just more mature for our age. Most college students are just immature kids...like they're still in HS or something.

I know exactly what you're talking about! I'm in the process of disentangling myself from "the group" I've been with for a while now. It's normal to get fed up with people who call themselves your friends but never truly step up and act like it.... especially if you have taken the time to scrutinize them and their (immature) behavior. Have you thought about joining a club or an inter-mural sport? You'll find a lot more people with common interests there, and those people are more likely to be friendly and willing to get to know you.

Get Sober friends and find some source of spirituality. If people can't accept you for who you are then screw them. Be patient finding good true friends takes time. For now let go of the fake ones.

My friends are the same way they get drunk on nights when theirs no school the next day and that's not what I'm about be independent when you get older you'll have a good job and your friends will be your co workers and eventually have a family and make friends with your kids friends parents

I feel almost the same way I don't feel as close to the friends who are supposed to be close to me they are all out having fun with each other doing all sorts of things (drugs and etc) and I'm just home doing nothing I feel alone even tho I am friends with many people and I am only in the 8th grade people as young as me shouldn't already be into crazy drugs or going to partys and coming back home at about 7am on school nights some part of me wants to do all that cuz I'm all in to doing fun stuff but I just feel soo left out.

yes I've tried, but it really is hard meeting people when you're the only one who doesn't drink or smoke and i'm over being the designated driver. Good luck with your situation, I know how bad it gets.

Most psychologists would disagree with me, but I believe friendship is largely unnecessary. socialization is unproductive, and over socialization makes the inner self stagnate.