I dont have feelings

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i am a man and i ran away from feelings and emotions at a very young age. around when i was in the 8th standard. i live with my mom most of the time. my dad used to move to different places all the time. though he stayed with us lots of times also. i used to find my mom's feelings and emotions too much. i started hating feelings and emotions. i thought it was a weak thing. i thought they were for girls and ignored it completely. now all my feelings and emotions are cluttered and i use my head all the time. its too confusing and horrible. i am afraid now. i am 25 now. and want to learn about my feelings and emotions. but i still feel awkard about them. i still think they are for weaklings. i am a complete fool in the department. is it normal?
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  • rowlingstone
    12 years ago | pl

    This is an issue many men have to deal with, and the reason for this are society's gender roles. That's right, girls, it's not all sunny for guys either.

    Here's a recommendation to get you going: Watch good, sad movies that will make you cry but (during the transitionary period) are still about manly people. For example, King Kong, or especially The Dark Knight. That's a movie about a rugged guy who acts on principles, but loses that which is dearest to his heart because he refuses to give up his convictions. Definitely made me cry.

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  • dork
    12 years ago | pl

    You may never of had a healthy role model of a man's expression of emotion. I think a little therapy would straighten that out. I'm not talking about couch talk, I'm talking about cognitive therapy-very successful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I think I'm the same. I started shutting them off when I was in high school. I just graduated last year, I'm in university now. 18 yrs old

    I maintained a very false persona while in high school, but all I really felt was anger and frustration. But a VERY intense anger and frustration when things dont go my way.

    Now that I'm in University I'm away from all the ppl I was false around, so I dont have to pretend anymore. What I'm left with is this sullen character which has no need for anyone. I dont mind it though. I actaully kind of prefer it. But I know it in't normal..

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Cognitive therapy could be of benefit to you, I locked my feelings away for a long while and didn't trust anyone except myself.

    After I learned how to let down my guard and not be afraid or defensive through that type of therapy, my life changed and as cliched as it sounds, I felt for once, I was okay and at peace with myself.

    There's a huge world out there and it's scary but to use a overused quote "It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all..." In reference to you, exchange the love/loved parts for felt/hurt/felt.

    You can do it, good luck! :D

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  • riiiiva
    12 years ago | pl

    You are a wonderful deserving human being!
    Allow yourself to feel! Feeling makes life enjoyable. Don't be afraid of feeling bad, feeling bad once in awhile is better that feeling nothing.

    My suggestion to you is yoga! You might think yoga is for weaklings also, but if youre interested in trying this out (this is how i conquered my depression and emotional blocks) please feel free to email me! Yoga is a wonderful way to loosen up your body mind and spirit, and express yourself.

    Feeling doesn't make you a weakling. It makes you human.

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