I dont feel bad for anything

I'm a 20 year-old male and my feelings don't work. I don't care about anyone and I use people to get what I want and never feel remorse for it. I don't have money but I have looks and it always gets me what I want. My family means nothing to me but they support me so I pretend to care. I'm with a girl who I do not care about but she has money, says she loves me, and finds me irresistable so I get whatever I want out of her I just have to act like I love her. I lie to her about what I do but I can cry my way out if she catches me. I have friends but I would never do anything for them I just go along with them for the free ride they always give me.

Is it normal for me to act this way even though I never had anything handed to me? And will I be numb like this forever?

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  • unusualfeet

    Ur kinda lucky in a way. When my friends talk to me and i dont answer i then feel bad like they will spend life eternaly sad because of me not answering. Its unrealistic but true.

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  • XBlackDeathX

    Hun, i think its because you either havnt found the right thing to motivate you or are scared (unconciously) of actually feeling. Lets go with the first one though, if thats true, some how and in some way or point in your life you'll find someone that actually makes you care. Lol no worrys, its normal for now, and i hope that you really dont stay with this kind of numbness forever because i want you to feel the happyness, betrayal, enjoyment, satisfaction and so much more emotions that make you a person. Im only 15 btw...XD

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  • brass_cupcake

    I know yer numbness...
    It's a lonely life. But no...it never changes. You'll go thru periods where its heavier than other times. You'll go thru multiple groups of "friends" and numerous significant others.
    Smart ones like us...can run under the radar for YEARS...getting everything we want for a long time. You will have a few fudge ups...but you'll only be upset cause it messed what game YOU have going. NOT because there was victims...or whatever involved.
    You either accept this numbness and run with it...make the most of it, or you fall into a rough spot.

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  • kellstar

    Sociopath, look it up and get help!!

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  • ADW

    That's how it works.

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  • Cold.2.The.Bone

    I think it's half and half. Partly because I've gone through feelins like this myself, the not caring part. Some people just don't understand emotions, and that's fine. Apathy is a mysterious thing. The fact that you posted this just shows that you care to a certain extent, and that's enough. Who knows? Maybe one day, you'll be hit by a trainwreck of emotions.

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  • lmfaorofl1

    look im studying to become a behavioural phsycoligist (im only 16 btw) and ur showing signs of a sociopath and if u need a brief descriptopn ill tell u.

    a sociopath is someone who lacks empathy, empathy is on the left side of the brain. and empathey is what makes us feel emotion, need i go on?

    its normal there are millions of people like u and if ull be like this for the rest of ur life? empathy is like a connection and until u can find that connection, im afraid ur stuck like that

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  • WAFFLESQUID

    I think it's a partial of being a psychopath. I assume it's this because you have the traits of a psychopath(You use others as chess pieces to get what you want, you have no remorse or empathy, you only care about yourself, etc.). Although if I were in a relationship I would care, my friends are meaningless but I do things that require little or no effort for them. I view that as entertainment, like children's toys, if you will. But if you care at all break up with the girl, stop hurting her, the emptiness will only be replaced with sadness and depression after so many years of hurting people. Start working for what you get, and even if you will never feel empathy, certain emotions, or ever really care for some people, you must learn to care or else it will never go away. But you should of been a bit more specific, so if you need someone to talk to about the situation you are in message me.

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  • honeybuns

    When your friends grow up they will realize what's going on and you won't have any. Try to change now because your act will not hold up much longer at all.

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  • cooldavid

    Good advice so far. You may have to get burned pretty bad, but eventually you'll realize that life is about karma. The energy that you get from the world will equal what you have put into it.

    To become a MAN, you need to do some searching. Figure out what it is that you love and desire, and challenge yourself to pursue it as far as you can go.

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  • WayOutThere

    You have no self-respect. You live from moment to moment and you don't really care what happens to you.

    Just remember, you were born with your looks; you didn't earn them. So, the benefits those looks confer are automatic; they don't require effort. But, without effort, you are going to be stuck in those limited circumstances where you can use nothing but your looks. You won't be able to grow. And, as you get older, your looks will fade and be less effective.

    If you learn things and develop yourself in ways that have nothing to do with your looks, you will learn to respect yourself. You will have EARNED that respect. Moreover, if you are genuinely good at what you do, AND you have good looks to boot, you can go far in life.

    Respect for others will come once you have respect for yourself; the SELF needs to come first.

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  • stone_love

    I think it's kind of normal, by which I mean there are definitely others like this. I've done some research on this stuff because I have some of these "issues" too. There's narcissistic personality disorder, and schizoid pd ... and then further out in extremity there's sadistic pd and antisocial pd. I'm not suggesting that you fit any of them specifically, but I thought I'd provide you with those terms to check out. There's also a possibility that you're just extremely depressed or something and don't have faith in others. Something emotional like that, as opposed to it being part of who you are.

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