I don't want to meet her family because of the age difference

Sounds like you are the one with the age gap problem. You should stop seeing her if you feel you cant do something because of the age gap.

Sounds like to me you dont have real feelings for her and you are just getting off with nice young thing abd stroking your ego about getting a young chick.

If you are serious about her, sack up abd be a boyfriend. Right now you're being a dick.

She knows them better than you do. Im curious how much older? My dad has 9 years on my mom.

Yeah your "try not to get punched in the face" instinct is working perfectly.

I'm 21 my bf is 41, one guy i like who likes me is 55. Age is just a number. Go for who you like. My parents know I like middle aged men and don't care. Well they arnt thrilled about it but it's not a big deal. I remember the look on my moms face when she found out I was moving in with one. See that one turned out to be a bad move. Me and him don't work as well as we thought. But that can just as easily have happened if he was my age.

Do I take it that she is what, like , 12?

When in doubt don't risk it. U less you want to be legally married, I don't see the issue. Keep her parents out of it if you can and get your sex without all the strings attached. It's up to you mate, but I would not bother with her parents.

Why are you sure she's being naïve?

Of course, you may well be right. Maybe she's inexperienced and immature, and the relationship is at that stage where she thinks you're perfect, she's totally besotted with you, and she wants to believe that everyone else will see you as she does. It's also possible that there's some slightly twisted psychology at work, and deep down she knows they won't approve, and she's looking for some drama or a reason to break up.

Or maybe she knows her family well and is seeing things clearly.

Is it possible you know the relationship between you and her isn't really healthy, know that you're using her, and basically are afraid that her male relatives are going to immediately recognise that you're a user and player?

Well, if it's that big a of a deal maybe you are too old for her, and ya'll shouldn't be going out? I don't do anything that I would be ashamed of, or wouldn't want anybody to know about as a rule.

... and no I ain't the least bit ashamed of the fact that I smuggled a harvest of California chronic from Long Beach to Las Vegas in 2003, but I probably wouldn't ever date anyone more than five to seven years older than me.