I think people have a skewed understanding of love. They think love is holding hands and having sex and kissing but no, thats not love. Thats mating. thats relationships and sex. and in many ways it over laps with love but in no way are the two the same thing. In fact love isn't even required for that to even happen.
Love is being able to listen to your favourite song and cry.
Love is being able to stare into the sky with wonder.
Love is when you wake up to birds chirping and the sun in your eyes.
Love is when theres sudden silence between when the laundry machines stops and runs again.
The world is full of love. Find that love first, because that love is real love. And the moment you find a person that makes you feel the same way those things make you feel, thats real love. But you don't need to find a girl for that. Finding a relationship will come in time.
I can assure you I hate to look in the mirror. I used to look like shit (i still do tbh). But iv'e still gotten girls, and it's got nothing to do with my looks. It's about confidence, being funny and putting yourself out there, and it's about being a nice person to be with. If you think of yourself as a hideous piece of garbage, girls can feel that too. and trust me, you're not ugly. If you have a face with all your limbs attached, thats still pretty good. A good haircut and dressing nicely can elevate you to be more attractive. If you ever feel to ugly, just remember Danny DeVito has a wife, and so did Louie CK. Well they aren't necessarily model material either eh?
> "They think love is holding hands and having sex and kissing but no, thats not love"
I know that my zero experience makes me idealize love and relationships but I know it's not a daily fairytale. I believe love is about to people who are fine by themselves but who love each other and decide to be together and share their lifes. And not just be lovers but also friends and help each other and be there when the other needs it. It's so amazing and magic and I envy (not in a resentful way) normal people to be able to experience it.
> "If you ever feel to ugly, just remember Danny DeVito has a wife, and so did Louie CK"
If they weren't famous or had money they'll be alone. Guaranteed
Listen, this is all I'm saying, love can be found in different aspects of life. Finding a partner is a way but theres so many other ways. No girl or human has ever made me feel the same way when i'm on stage playing music, or when I explore abandoned buildings. Thats true love, and that love gives me purpose in life other than finding a woman to fill the gaping hole in my heart. once you fixe that, then women will come to you eventually. You keep building this relationship thing so high up and then simultaneously break yourself down to nothing. It's a recipe for disaster.
also, Louie was in the shitter before he became a famous standup comic. He was writing for conan and other shows, most of them cancelled (and conan was at the brink of being cancelled too) and he only broke out later in his life with his jokes about father hood. Also just look around the street: not everyone whos in a relationship is a model. I've seen plenty of average to ugly guys with pretty girls, which makes me wonder how "tf did he land that?". The answer is simple, she liked him as a person.
You have to stop being so harsh on yourself and idealise this thing that really, is over rated. Relationships aren't that good in itself. It's only something valuable when you feel love, and if you can't find love in the world how the hell are you gonna find it in a woman? Find love, within yourself and around you. In your family in friends. and if you feel self conscious go work out, get a nice haircut and start dressing well. Seriously, it's like magic. Thats the only reason a guy looking like me could get some level of attraction from some girls. Good luck.
I don't want to live anymore bc I'll never experience love. IIN?
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I think people have a skewed understanding of love. They think love is holding hands and having sex and kissing but no, thats not love. Thats mating. thats relationships and sex. and in many ways it over laps with love but in no way are the two the same thing. In fact love isn't even required for that to even happen.
Love is being able to listen to your favourite song and cry.
Love is being able to stare into the sky with wonder.
Love is when you wake up to birds chirping and the sun in your eyes.
Love is when theres sudden silence between when the laundry machines stops and runs again.
The world is full of love. Find that love first, because that love is real love. And the moment you find a person that makes you feel the same way those things make you feel, thats real love. But you don't need to find a girl for that. Finding a relationship will come in time.
I can assure you I hate to look in the mirror. I used to look like shit (i still do tbh). But iv'e still gotten girls, and it's got nothing to do with my looks. It's about confidence, being funny and putting yourself out there, and it's about being a nice person to be with. If you think of yourself as a hideous piece of garbage, girls can feel that too. and trust me, you're not ugly. If you have a face with all your limbs attached, thats still pretty good. A good haircut and dressing nicely can elevate you to be more attractive. If you ever feel to ugly, just remember Danny DeVito has a wife, and so did Louie CK. Well they aren't necessarily model material either eh?
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> "They think love is holding hands and having sex and kissing but no, thats not love"
I know that my zero experience makes me idealize love and relationships but I know it's not a daily fairytale. I believe love is about to people who are fine by themselves but who love each other and decide to be together and share their lifes. And not just be lovers but also friends and help each other and be there when the other needs it. It's so amazing and magic and I envy (not in a resentful way) normal people to be able to experience it.
> "If you ever feel to ugly, just remember Danny DeVito has a wife, and so did Louie CK"
If they weren't famous or had money they'll be alone. Guaranteed
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Listen, this is all I'm saying, love can be found in different aspects of life. Finding a partner is a way but theres so many other ways. No girl or human has ever made me feel the same way when i'm on stage playing music, or when I explore abandoned buildings. Thats true love, and that love gives me purpose in life other than finding a woman to fill the gaping hole in my heart. once you fixe that, then women will come to you eventually. You keep building this relationship thing so high up and then simultaneously break yourself down to nothing. It's a recipe for disaster.
also, Louie was in the shitter before he became a famous standup comic. He was writing for conan and other shows, most of them cancelled (and conan was at the brink of being cancelled too) and he only broke out later in his life with his jokes about father hood. Also just look around the street: not everyone whos in a relationship is a model. I've seen plenty of average to ugly guys with pretty girls, which makes me wonder how "tf did he land that?". The answer is simple, she liked him as a person.
You have to stop being so harsh on yourself and idealise this thing that really, is over rated. Relationships aren't that good in itself. It's only something valuable when you feel love, and if you can't find love in the world how the hell are you gonna find it in a woman? Find love, within yourself and around you. In your family in friends. and if you feel self conscious go work out, get a nice haircut and start dressing well. Seriously, it's like magic. Thats the only reason a guy looking like me could get some level of attraction from some girls. Good luck.