I don't have kids, and the truth is I didn't want them for the majority of my life. I had a few times where I thought I wanted kids. I'm honestly not sure if I want kids now, but I'm probably too old at this stage. I try not to get to attached to my wants nor to confuse my wants with my needs. I also think it's good to not push things. Some things are meant to be and some aren't.
I do, however, distinctly remember when I was relatively sure that I absolutely didn't want any children that there was nothing more annoying than people telling me that someday I'd change my mind, and come around to their way of thinking. I can't stand the presumptuous attitude of people projecting their stuff on me. I remember this one friend in particular who was always encouraging or rather pushing me to have kids when I was married to mistake number one, and she always sounded so damn tired and burned out, then she'd have the nerve to ask me when I was gonna get serious about my life. Ugh! Yeah, I was only working part-time and seeing a therapist, but I was at least working in radio broadcasting which was my field of study, whereas my friend with the psychology degree was working in retail. There's nothing wrong with working in retail, and I've worked in retail, but I felt like she and I weren't on the same page. I felt like my friend didn't respect or understand what I wanted for my life. I felt like this chick just wanted me to give up my dreams and settle for a life like hers. Not that there's anything wrong with her sort of life, but I couldn't help resenting her passive aggressive way of projecting her stuff on me. Misery loves company. Anyway, I did eventually start to feel a bit of a maternal want for a baby of my own accord, but a year later my husband cheated with a fat skank from his work. Needless to say I was very glad that I didn't have any kids with my stupid ex. It was a sad and difficult time for me, but I think it worked out for the best, because I have never wanted children enough to want to have them an my own. I think people who truly want kids aren't as conditional about it as I am or have been.
Well, that's enough about me, sorry for the long ramblings of my previous paragraph. I guess what I'm trying to say in my own round about way is it's fine if you don't want kids, and fine if you do as long as it's what you want and not the bullshit some codependent bitch is trying to project on you. Only you can live your life. Do yo thang, girl!
That's another thing, what if the relationship doesn't work out? Puts so much stress on both partners that you cant know for sure whether youll be able to withstand it. Then the kid grows up with divorced parents, which is lame. I get told that I'll change my mind too. It makes want to tell people to go fuck themselves. That's like telling someone who has kids that they should've aborted them. It's no one else's choice and bugging a person about it is not helpful.
I don't think children are worth the effort
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I don't have kids, and the truth is I didn't want them for the majority of my life. I had a few times where I thought I wanted kids. I'm honestly not sure if I want kids now, but I'm probably too old at this stage. I try not to get to attached to my wants nor to confuse my wants with my needs. I also think it's good to not push things. Some things are meant to be and some aren't.
I do, however, distinctly remember when I was relatively sure that I absolutely didn't want any children that there was nothing more annoying than people telling me that someday I'd change my mind, and come around to their way of thinking. I can't stand the presumptuous attitude of people projecting their stuff on me. I remember this one friend in particular who was always encouraging or rather pushing me to have kids when I was married to mistake number one, and she always sounded so damn tired and burned out, then she'd have the nerve to ask me when I was gonna get serious about my life. Ugh! Yeah, I was only working part-time and seeing a therapist, but I was at least working in radio broadcasting which was my field of study, whereas my friend with the psychology degree was working in retail. There's nothing wrong with working in retail, and I've worked in retail, but I felt like she and I weren't on the same page. I felt like my friend didn't respect or understand what I wanted for my life. I felt like this chick just wanted me to give up my dreams and settle for a life like hers. Not that there's anything wrong with her sort of life, but I couldn't help resenting her passive aggressive way of projecting her stuff on me. Misery loves company. Anyway, I did eventually start to feel a bit of a maternal want for a baby of my own accord, but a year later my husband cheated with a fat skank from his work. Needless to say I was very glad that I didn't have any kids with my stupid ex. It was a sad and difficult time for me, but I think it worked out for the best, because I have never wanted children enough to want to have them an my own. I think people who truly want kids aren't as conditional about it as I am or have been.
Well, that's enough about me, sorry for the long ramblings of my previous paragraph. I guess what I'm trying to say in my own round about way is it's fine if you don't want kids, and fine if you do as long as it's what you want and not the bullshit some codependent bitch is trying to project on you. Only you can live your life. Do yo thang, girl!
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That's another thing, what if the relationship doesn't work out? Puts so much stress on both partners that you cant know for sure whether youll be able to withstand it. Then the kid grows up with divorced parents, which is lame. I get told that I'll change my mind too. It makes want to tell people to go fuck themselves. That's like telling someone who has kids that they should've aborted them. It's no one else's choice and bugging a person about it is not helpful.