I don't know if you're the same person whose other post I just replied to, it was a similar theme.
Parenthood just isn't for me either, and even at a young age I know that. I don't want to be overstretched economically, having to spend thousands on my kids. I'd also be scared that they'd end up with depression like I've had, it would kill me knowing I contributed to bringing them them into the world just to go through all the same shit.
Good call. If you are the child of toxic parents, there is at least a fair chance that you will pay it forward to your own children, even if you don't intend to do so. Being a parent is the toughest job there is, and if you screw it up, there are no do-overs. Children are not extensions of you - they unique individuals with their own wants, needs, hopes, dreams, desires and personalities - and those may be VERY different from yours. They can also be exhausting, frustrating, willful, and yes - extremely expensive. It takes a very special person to be a good parent, and most of us simply do not have what it takes. Congratulations on figuring that out for yourself at an early age. Unfortunately, most do not until it is too late and they discover that they weren't up to the challenge after all.
I don't think children are worth the effort
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I don't know if you're the same person whose other post I just replied to, it was a similar theme.
Parenthood just isn't for me either, and even at a young age I know that. I don't want to be overstretched economically, having to spend thousands on my kids. I'd also be scared that they'd end up with depression like I've had, it would kill me knowing I contributed to bringing them them into the world just to go through all the same shit.
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Good call. If you are the child of toxic parents, there is at least a fair chance that you will pay it forward to your own children, even if you don't intend to do so. Being a parent is the toughest job there is, and if you screw it up, there are no do-overs. Children are not extensions of you - they unique individuals with their own wants, needs, hopes, dreams, desires and personalities - and those may be VERY different from yours. They can also be exhausting, frustrating, willful, and yes - extremely expensive. It takes a very special person to be a good parent, and most of us simply do not have what it takes. Congratulations on figuring that out for yourself at an early age. Unfortunately, most do not until it is too late and they discover that they weren't up to the challenge after all.