You've never had a change of circumstances and had to change your stance/opinion/previous course of action on something?
Take my work situation. I told my clients I would work with them until the end of this year and into the foreseeable future. Some stuff has come up and instead I need to finish with them in May and move interstate.
In January, when we made this agreement, I had no clue this would happen. I had no intenyion of moving. So was I lying then?
I cannot think of any if there was. I make sure to never promise anything because something might happen otherwise. I do feel lied to when someone changes what they said.
I think people generally accept that situations and beliefs change, and that "lying" is only when someone has an intent to mislead/misinform. Change of mind is not an intent to mislead/misinform.
And I think that generally, people consider "promises" to be "within the best of my abilities, I will do this". Unforseen circumstances out of your own control really don't constitute a lie.
I honestly don't know if I'll explain this in a way that makes sense to you. Not trying to be rude about it, I just don't think you view this as most people do.
I might interpet those things more literally than most people. It does make me skeptical of anything someone may say because I do not know if it will change.
It seems that way, yes. Aspie trait etc. I can understand why you would be sceptical in light of that line of thinking. Unfortunately, it is mostly unlikely to be people's intent.
Well said, I think you're pretty much right on. There's always what I like to call exceptions to the rule. Life is unpredictable. "Stuff comes up", which can change a situation completely.
I don't see any difference between lying and changing your mind.
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You've never had a change of circumstances and had to change your stance/opinion/previous course of action on something?
Take my work situation. I told my clients I would work with them until the end of this year and into the foreseeable future. Some stuff has come up and instead I need to finish with them in May and move interstate.
In January, when we made this agreement, I had no clue this would happen. I had no intenyion of moving. So was I lying then?
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I cannot think of any if there was. I make sure to never promise anything because something might happen otherwise. I do feel lied to when someone changes what they said.
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Also if I did I was lying too. I am not trying to excuse myself from this rule.
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I think people generally accept that situations and beliefs change, and that "lying" is only when someone has an intent to mislead/misinform. Change of mind is not an intent to mislead/misinform.
And I think that generally, people consider "promises" to be "within the best of my abilities, I will do this". Unforseen circumstances out of your own control really don't constitute a lie.
I honestly don't know if I'll explain this in a way that makes sense to you. Not trying to be rude about it, I just don't think you view this as most people do.
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I might interpet those things more literally than most people. It does make me skeptical of anything someone may say because I do not know if it will change.
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It seems that way, yes. Aspie trait etc. I can understand why you would be sceptical in light of that line of thinking. Unfortunately, it is mostly unlikely to be people's intent.
Well said, I think you're pretty much right on. There's always what I like to call exceptions to the rule. Life is unpredictable. "Stuff comes up", which can change a situation completely.