In a way he is intruding, it's friends I've had since I was a kid so anyone brought into the group is subject to scrutiny and the same shit that everyone else got when 'signing up'.
There's nothing wrong with HIM, he just has this need to act so differently and superior in social situations. Like I said above, he never bothered to sit back and see how we all work together, he just continuously tries to force himself in in what amounts to unappealing ways to everyone. In other words he's trying too hard and talking too much and acting too much like he knows what we're all about, but obviously we know he doesn't and hasn't been around long so he needs to know his role. I even know who is usually the most prominent one in the group, and when some new guy wants to come in and take his position, along with disrupt everyone else's position, then people are going to have a problem with that and unless he can back up what he THINKS his position should be, then he's going to get a good deal of resistance that he can't fight. Know what I mean?
Also these guys watched out for me since I was a kid, they're naturally protective of me. It's not that they don't like HIM, it's that he can't operate in a group social situation, he always has to try to be the loudest and biggest, and clearly here he is not that. I don't deny he gets extra flak for that but rightfully so, I don't know how anyone would expect to just kick in the doors of a place and demand to be boss without putting in the resumee and time.
I don't like my husband around my friends.
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In a way he is intruding, it's friends I've had since I was a kid so anyone brought into the group is subject to scrutiny and the same shit that everyone else got when 'signing up'.
There's nothing wrong with HIM, he just has this need to act so differently and superior in social situations. Like I said above, he never bothered to sit back and see how we all work together, he just continuously tries to force himself in in what amounts to unappealing ways to everyone. In other words he's trying too hard and talking too much and acting too much like he knows what we're all about, but obviously we know he doesn't and hasn't been around long so he needs to know his role. I even know who is usually the most prominent one in the group, and when some new guy wants to come in and take his position, along with disrupt everyone else's position, then people are going to have a problem with that and unless he can back up what he THINKS his position should be, then he's going to get a good deal of resistance that he can't fight. Know what I mean?
Also these guys watched out for me since I was a kid, they're naturally protective of me. It's not that they don't like HIM, it's that he can't operate in a group social situation, he always has to try to be the loudest and biggest, and clearly here he is not that. I don't deny he gets extra flak for that but rightfully so, I don't know how anyone would expect to just kick in the doors of a place and demand to be boss without putting in the resumee and time.