It's because of how you phrased it. The problem is that ^ this, I believe completely, but it's SO different from the way you worded it in the original post :/
I don't think people are judging you specifically, it's just that the information we got (i.e. the way you typed it, the words you used) made it *seem* like you were intentionally and quite unashamedly belittling her. Communication online is difficult sometimes, and is most likely to blame here.
If what you say is the case... the more irritated you get when you unintentionally offend or belittle her, the more she is going to feel awful - because if she truly is sensitive, and a good friend, she probably hates making you feel unhappy. I used to be very similar. I would suggest subtly trying to build her up and project a positive mood and energy around her, and see if this changes her behaviors. It may be that if she believes she is making you happy (based on how you act) that she will change what she's doing and genuinely start making you happy again.
Negativity snowballs, getting bigger and building up when it bounces back and forth between two people. So does positivity. Start putting that kind of energy into your interaction with her just to see what it does, like a little test-run :)
yeah, thank you. You're the best. but I talked to her and now we're not talking. I don't need her right now. And I have always tried to be positive. that's what I'm known for, being "peppy". but she's way too negative for me and I can't deal with that because lately my life has been teetering. So whatever.
thank you a lot.
(:
I don't know why my best friend and I are even friends, IIN?
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It's because of how you phrased it. The problem is that ^ this, I believe completely, but it's SO different from the way you worded it in the original post :/
I don't think people are judging you specifically, it's just that the information we got (i.e. the way you typed it, the words you used) made it *seem* like you were intentionally and quite unashamedly belittling her. Communication online is difficult sometimes, and is most likely to blame here.
If what you say is the case... the more irritated you get when you unintentionally offend or belittle her, the more she is going to feel awful - because if she truly is sensitive, and a good friend, she probably hates making you feel unhappy. I used to be very similar. I would suggest subtly trying to build her up and project a positive mood and energy around her, and see if this changes her behaviors. It may be that if she believes she is making you happy (based on how you act) that she will change what she's doing and genuinely start making you happy again.
Negativity snowballs, getting bigger and building up when it bounces back and forth between two people. So does positivity. Start putting that kind of energy into your interaction with her just to see what it does, like a little test-run :)
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yeah, thank you. You're the best. but I talked to her and now we're not talking. I don't need her right now. And I have always tried to be positive. that's what I'm known for, being "peppy". but she's way too negative for me and I can't deal with that because lately my life has been teetering. So whatever.
thank you a lot.
(: