I don't know what to call it but help

Ok, so I kind of have a little bit of history with this girl. We have talked a couple times in the past but never dated. I like her but I don't know if I would ever date her. Anyways yesterday I threw a party and a bunch of people were upstairs watching The Conjuring. I sat beside her on the couch and after it stated to get scary she was wrapped around me. Anyways we were holding hands and after a while one of my friend came and sat on the other side of her. After a couple more scary parts and what not she was holding on to his arm to. And I started to get a little pissed off. Then as it continued I looked back after a while and he was holding her hand. So basically she is holding my hand curled up with me and his hand. Now I am not a very attractive guy and the other guy is a good looking guy and in every aspect is better than me. So I don't really blame her but still. She was holding both of our hands and after the movie she was flirting with him and at that point I was just crazy pissed off. I could really use a girls input to explain to me what just happened. And is this a normal thing

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  • I would write her off. There is always someone better out there for you. She probably is the type of girl who is into being with two guys at once.

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  • Tomoke

    Man don't say he's better in every aspect because he's not! Let me tell you something about girls. Girls don't ussualy pick the "hotter guy" and boys can't always tell who's more handsome than himself or vice versa.

    What girls do like is confident boys and your look is just the first step te meet a girl. If you're looking good girls will most likely approach you faster but that doesn't mean the instantly like you because the personallity of a boy means alot more than the looks. So if you're sweet and caring and a boy who's in your opinion more handsome but rude and a total ass, she'll pick you above him. Keep that in mind.

    Also a boy can be handsome but if it's not her type of guy, he's just ugly to her. And if you are her type then you'll be more handsome than him even though you think the opposite.

    So never think that someone's more handsome than you because it's all about the girls taste and after the looks on first sight comes the interiority.

    If you really like her then stand up and ask her out. If you don't do it someone else will and she'll never know the way you feel about her.

    I hope this helped you and sorry for my poor English. I'm not a native speaker.

    Good luck!

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    • LucidMan07

      That was a very good answer. I appreciate it.

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      • Tomoke

        Thanks :).

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  • dybex

    Not her fault at all.

    You should be pissed off with yourself for being too slow, but more so with your male friend. Very ungentlemanly of him to butt in like that. Total scumbag in my opinion.

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  • driedroses

    That's pretty weird of her. Maybe she wants you both.

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  • kittyd217

    She's a bitch. You deserve better. We let girls get away with so much crap in our society. I'm a girl, and she shouldn't have lead you on by holding your hand-and then holding another guys hand in front of you IS NOT COOL.

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  • bamanthehippy

    Hey guys, I'm a girl and guess what? He's either overreacting or he's friend zoned. She probly doesn't realize ur feelings cuz GIRLS CAN'T READ MINDS. Just talk to her :p

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  • jeffa13

    1st thing he is not better than you in every aspect never speak about yourself in that way. It sounds as if both of you have known each other for a while & she possibly doesn't see you in a sexual way also she may not know you feelings. If she see's you as a good friend or a brother figure I see her holding you hand or arm during that movie its pretty scary I agree. It boils down to whether you want to risk the friendship becoming awkward by addressing your stronger feelings & being able to deal with the consequences of her not feeling the same. Its a hard decision but one you need to address for you own peace of mind.

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  • peterr

    Suck the lady off or at least the guy. You will still get something out of it.

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  • Eas1206

    Dude cock blocked you big time.

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  • robbieforgotpw

    I just sharted

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  • rulerofthenight

    Both of you just got friendzoned.

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  • Pinnacle

    Seems to me like she was into the movie and neither of you boys. You do realize that some people are more touchy-feely than others, right? If a female coworker rubs my shoulders playfully for a minute it means she is being friendly, not that she desires an affair; unless this is on a daily, regular recurring basis, that is.

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  • You blew it dude.

    She was obviously horny and trying to flirt with you and you had no balls and didn't make a move.

    When the next dick came along she went for it and this guy flirted back with her.

    I'm surprised they didn't at least make out or have oral sex?

    It not then you guys are probably teenagers that don't have a clue what you're doing.
    Nothing wrong with that but you gotta go for girls if you like em dude.

    Anyway, you need to learn to spot the signals and then act on them if you like a girl.

    If I liked her and she held my hand I would of made a move on her.

    Your guy friend didn't do anything wrong and neither did the girl. Only you did.

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  • painisweakness

    She's just a whore who hides her whoriness very well. We all have those friends.

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  • dream.of.fire

    Just plain and simple dude, got friend-zoned. I've got friend zoned hard waaaaay fucking bad. But then I started to not look at her beauty, her personality sucked. The bitch wanted the D from me but she had low standards so I figured it out I'm less than a low standard. So I said fuck the bitch i didn't that shit. It sucks but there plenty more stars in the galaxy bro

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    • loonylightsgood

      regardless of the girl, please don't be one of those "Nice Guys". You know the ones. "I held the door for her once and told her she was pretty and she didn't even suck my dick." or like if you ask a girl out and she says no, "fuck you bitch, you're a slut anyway. Why don't you wanna date me you whore. Man nice guys always get friend zoned."

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